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Does he like me? Or just want to touch me?

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Question - (7 February 2009) 5 Answers - (Newest, 10 February 2009)
A female United Kingdom age 30-35, anonymous writes:

I Seriusly Need Help =(..

Im 14 Years Old And My Bf Is 15 We Have Been Together For 1yr 6months..

I Love Him Loads He Loves Me Too..

But For Me I Feel As If He Is Just With Me For Touchin Me..

Whenever Were On The Phone Talkin He Says Things Like 'I Cant Wait To Have Your Body' 'You Have A Sexy Body' 'You Have Big Boobs' And Never Says Anything About The Way I Look.

The Furthest We Have Been Is Him Goin Up My Bra And I Disliked It I Spoke To Him About It He Said He Wouldnt But Still Does.

Im Really Confused Is He With Me Just To Touch Me? Or Does He Actually Like Me?

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A reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2009):

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Thanks Everyone Who Has Helped..

I Will Take Your Answers And See What I Can Do..

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 February 2009):

well, your 14 and it is normal for a boy your age to want to experience sex.They have raging hormones that cause them to want to have sex wiidly, a strong impluse that they cant control. I too at this age began to explore the realm of sex, however felt just as uncomfortable as you did.

From your discription your not ready too have sex (which is a very good thing and is nothing to be ashamed of). Continue to tell him your just not interested or ready to do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable. If he continues to proceed trying to do sexual acts with you and clearly does not have any interest in taking your request seriously leave him. You respect yourself and deserve a boyfriend that will do the same.The truth is that right now sex is too much and too confusing for a young girl your age to handle. Dont allow a man to cloud up your judgement , whether your 14 or 45 your always going to need to stand firm in your choices.

Perhaps he does want you for just sex , or maybe he really does care for you and allows his body to take control. You will be clear of his intensions once you make your decision clear to him. If he goes on too try stuff he just wants whats in your panties!

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2009):

This guy only wants you for one thing my friend. I hate to say it, but from what you said, I think he is just using you.

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A female reader, MidtownToDowntown Ireland +, writes (7 February 2009):

Well firstly, only one thing is on a guys mind when he is 15 and I'm afraid to say that it is all about physicality with them. This guy seems to think that because the two of you are together all this touching is a giving.

Dump him.

You talked to him about how you didn't like going that far and still he keeps doing it. He seems to think that your relationship is a one-way street. Relationships consist of trust and communication: physicality is just a bonus ;-) If touching is all that he is concerned about he should go find a prostitute.

You should bring all of this up with him as it is obvious that he is not treating you with the respect that you deserve. You told him you don't like letting him into your bra and still he continues. I really do not mean to sound so harsh but he's acting like a jerk and you deserve better.

And do not think that anything is wrong with you or that you are 'frigid'. I'm 18 and I only recently let someone into my bra, I trust and like this guy and I know that he trusts, likes and respects me. I insinuated the move, he has never once pressed me to do anything that I'm not comfortable with.

Trust me when I say that all that touching is waaaaay nicer when you're older and more comfortable.

Best of luck

xxx

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A male reader, greg290352 United Kingdom +, writes (7 February 2009):

greg290352 agony auntYes I agree the guy is just using you. As you told him to stop he should not carry on touching. Maybe you don't feel ready to go much beyond kissing?

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