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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey guys so there is this guy and he's 9 years older than me anyway he's is constantly hot and cold like it's okay for him to say he likes me a lot and misses me but if I say it back he's like stop rushing into things like we've known each other a F***ing week. Basically we were texting and getting on then he wanted to call me just to hear m voice 2hrs later he was on about staying at my house after a date just so he didn't have to drive home and then about how we'd soon exhaust all outlets for places to go where I live so I mentioned something about not being able to stay with him like he can be because he lives with his parents and he just blurted out for god sake could we just get Tuesday over and done with first before you plan the rest of our lives. I got very pissed off we argued and I said we are nothing no muss no fuss fun and he agreed then never text me the next day about visiting. I don't understand what he wants? Does he like me or are we nothing to each other? I feel hurt by this and I'll be gutted if it doesn't work out but I feel I should get out now rather than be more hurt later on.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 February 2014):
 I agree with Cindy.
Stop wasting any more time on a guy who is this immature and playing little mind games.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2014): The guy is a big baby, OP. Not a man. He's definitely only in this to get his dick wet and gets pissed off at you if you don't provide him with that.
He's not hot and cold he's just trying to manipulate you into giving him sex.
OP you can't trust a person whose behaviour is this inconsistent, you certainly should not invest emotions in such a person.
He's just trying to keep a younger girl confused long enough so he can get what he wants and then goes. Sells you some bullshit lines about liking you a lot but then casting you down if you reciprocate. He's a manipulative prick and you need to get as far away as possible. Nothing is worth this, and if he's like that now in the stage where people are on their best behaviour in order to impress, just imagine what he'd be like further down the line. He has all the makings of an abusive asshole.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 February 2014):
 RUN! I agree with Cindy...all he's hoping is to stay at yours for your first date and get laid and then be gone.
This is not a function of his AGE but rather his immaturity.
He is no prize.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (11 February 2014):
 Get out now. What he wants, is blatant. He wants to get laid - where he wants, when he wants ( apparently, this Tuesday ) and his plans and projects don't go beyond that. There's nothing to " work out " and, to his credit, he's being obvious and totally not mysterious about it. That perhaps does not mean that it has to be a one night stand, I guess that if he'll find you sexually adequate, and low maintenance enough- probably he'd call you again, at his terms and conditions. He " likes " you in the sense that he finds you convenient and available, and ,of course, attractive enough to sleep at your place ( i.e. to sleep with you ) after a date. As far as liking you as a person, I can't see trace of it from what you have written us so far.
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