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writes:I broke up with my on again off again boyfriend about a month ago. It's done this time for sure. When we had our first big break up about a year and a half ago, my best friend continued to hang out with him and going to his events (he used to be an event planner and do club events). After not hearing from her for a week or so, she posted a photo of my ex with a girl and needless to say, it was a little inappropriate. I sent her a message trying to put it in perspective for her by saying the same situation, only us switching places. She has never been in a relationship, and so I guess she could not understand. I went on to say that I felt she was being insensitive towards me by hanging out with him and not being there for me. She proceeded to say that if I were the broken hearted one, she'd be there for me. The thing was, I was devastated. I had to leave the relationship because it was a emotionally abusive. She continued to just be defensive and started being a bit rude and I just got fed up and told her I was done with the situation and the friendship. Harsh, I know, but I was so hurt and felt very betrayed that she was spending time with him and not even calling me up.Now we have broken up for a month, and my ex came home to visit and I saw all these photos of him hanging out with her and some of our other mutual friends.I know that it's not right for me to start a relationship and bring a friend around and not expect a friendship to form, which she said to me the day we spoke, and I completely understand I could never make her choose sides. The thing is, this drives me insane. I just need some words to make me get past this situation because it's dismantling me. I am still so hurt about the friendship being over and the way she acted through me just trying to make her realise she should have been there for me too, and not just him....I am so hurt. This makes it so much worse. I lost my best friend to this relationship, and after all they are still friends.
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reader, loveisforeverwhenitsreal  +, writes (11 February 2014):
 Ok, I realize you said that you talked to her but have you ever considered that maybe she didn't know how to make you feel better like she did him? My best bet would be to just apologize and try explaining your side again. If you two start fighting again then try to be her friend and quit bringing it up. Let it fall under the table and lie there. If thTat doesn't work then she probably that good of a friend because she should be able to see your side too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2014):
My take may be soo diffirent than the rest but here goes :
I think your friend has a crush on your ex, simple as that . As if she didn't she would spend equal time between the two of you ..
I would simply move on make new friends as I wouldn't mix my friends as my bf friends as that when complication set in .
Take it easy . Big deep breaths and as the saying goes : this time shall soon pass .
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