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writes:Been dating a quiet/shy guy for about 5 month exclusively. He's only been in love twice and the 2nd time devistated him (unrequited love). Now he's fearful that it could happen to him again so he's not moving forward in our relationship towards love. He says he just needs some time. Is this a cope out? Just wants the sex without the love or what? I'm feeling angry especially after he told me he wanted a serious relationship and that he didn't have any emotional baggage. But its clear to see he does have baggage? Has anyone dealt with this before? Should I just give up since I'm not into fixing/changing people or should I just give it a bit more time? Sooooo confused!! Reply to this Question
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (10 May 2011):
 I think he is actually worried about the relationship and probably does need some time to get things together. But with that said you still have to watch out for yourself here. I would let him know that he has the time to get things together but during that time you don't want to be having sex because you feel that it only adds to the confusion. After that comes up you can be the judge for what type of guy he is. If he agrees then he is serious about being with you but if he doesn't then sex may be all that he wants and he has some pretty good excuses.
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