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writes:i posted a comment before about being in love with my best (male)friend and not being able to tell him, well i sent him a txt message and said, 'earlier u sed i was mean so heres a list of all the nice things about you!! you are a talented musician, you make me laugh, you have reli cool hair (without the aid of my ghds :D), you always listen to my crazed ramblings and generally i love you! so there!' i kind of told him but in a friendly way. And now things arent really awkward but i think he thinks i just love him as a friend, either that or he knows how i feel and doesnt feel the same so he doesnt want to hurt me :S i cant get him out of my head! but i dont want to ruin our friendship, please help!
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reader, vixsfix +, writes (3 September 2006):
 i feel for you i do, i've been in the same position lately. basically they're a pain in the ass, they can't handle feelings or at least it takes them a while. perhaps he's just a little overwhelmed. try being normal with him ask him out to somewhere you go a lot or make him tell him things you know he wnt be able not to laugh at, remind him why he should feel the same way. try the mutual friends thing gve you an indication of his feelings. but try to be more open without going over the top with him. hopefully you'll get a feel for whether he wants more than friendship - sadly for me we're just going to be mates, but at least we're back to normal. i hope it all works out for you. x x x
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (3 September 2006):
 I think you could be right, that he only thinks you feel for him as a friend, when we feel something strongly we assume that the other person sees it because its so clear for us but that doesnt necessarily mean that they notice any change at all.
Maybe, if you want to sound him out without laying your feelings on the line and making things awkward you could enlist the aid of a mutual friend?? Make sure you trust them and they are tactile, dont pick somebody who's just going to blab everything pick somebody who you can trust to sleuth on your behalf. Take them into your confidence and ask them if they will *subtly* probe this guy to get an idea of how he feels and what he thinks you feel. Hope that helps. Take care.
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