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writes:I've been talking to this guy online for a while now. He claims he is interested and he cares about me, but lately he has been busy. So, we haven't had the opportunity to talk much. We usually send each other messages on facebook but lately he hasnt been doing much of that either. And when I send him a message, he will take hours and hours to reply. However, when I look at my fb newsfeed - it shows that he has been on fb hours ago and never replied to my question. I figured he wasn't interested so I stopped sending him messages. However, when this happened he wanted to talk and claimed that he was interested and he apologized for being so busy. Now that I'm talking to him again he's doing the same thing. I can't figure out what he wants. Can someone help me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): Sounds like he has a lot of friends on facebook and you are one of them. Don't get insistent and talk to plenty of others instead of pinning your hopes on him.
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reader, stef02  +, writes (20 December 2010):
 So true.. I was talking to a guy I meet online we talked he gaved me his all attention we meet and everything he would text me a lot I told him I like him he did to.. We kept talking then out of no were he stopped texting we also did the facebook and no response.. So im super confused.. Like you had feeling.. I would say keep moving foward that's what im doing..
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): Can i ask how many times he has done this, and how long you have been intouch e.t.c ?.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (20 December 2010):
 What time of year is it? Oh yeah, Christmas/new year. Everyone I know is super busy. I have trouble responding to emails and such in a timely fashion this time of year too. Just a thought before you write him off completely.
It may be as you think, but it may be that he's legitimately busy. People don't need to respond immediately to texts and emails to be interested. What ever happened to patience?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (20 December 2010):
 Well, let's see now:
He was in touch with you I guess fairly frequently to begin with, online. Then got busy and claimed he didn't have time to respond - even while on Facebook. So you asked him about it, he apologized and said he is still interested. BUT he's gone back to his previous behavior.
What I would say about this is that old axiom "Actions speak louder than words." I'm sure you know that saying.
His words and actions aren't in sync.......and yes, I am aware that we can and are all busy at times, have our own lives to lead, esp. at this time of year. However........unless you can talk to him again and come up between you with a more satisfactory solution, unfortunately it sounds as if he's not as interested as he says he is......but perhaps doesn't want to hurt your feelings by telling you that outright......
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 December 2010): I knew a guy like that, he chased me hard, but when we were together he was distant and barely communicated with me. I broke up with him, and he chased me hard again. I didn't realize what was happening at the time, but seriously, I think some guys really enjoy the chase. They may not be aware themselves, which is probably why he's telling you he's interested now. But most likely he'll do the same. No one is sooo busy they can't respond to a facebook message when they are already on.
It's really not worth the time to start investing your emotions in this guy. Better to move on and find a guy who fits your needs and is attentive to the degree you want, and consistently so.
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