A
female
age
36-40,
*amcakes
writes:Hi, I am 23 and I have been in a relationship with a guy for 2 years now. The first year was off and on and off and on until this last time he asked me to move in and I did. Everything was going fine, a few arguments here and there but something every couple has. He is from England and was going home to visit for the holiday and asked me to come along and meet his family so I did. A little over a week of being back he breaks up with me saying that we have problems that we can not work out with each other, such as trust issues I don’t think I have trust issues and I don’t think he does either. He feels like I get mad when he wants to go and hang out with his friends, I will admit that I feel that he doesn’t give me the attention I want sometimes but I don’t dwell on it and I never stay mad about anything. I don’t know if he just has commitment problems or what. I love him so much and I would like to spend the rest of my life with him but it isn’t something we talked about really. I did mention it while we were in England but it wasn’t something that we really discussed for very long. I really have no idea what to do but to just give him his time to sort some things out. I don’t understand why he would even take me to meet his family if he doesn’t think our relationship is going to work. Please help me! Reply to this Question
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reader, anon_e_mouse  +, writes (9 January 2008):
 I agree with A female reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008) when she says "your best bet is to let him know that you care for him but leave the ball in his court to decide. In the meantime enjoy yourself... if he is really meant for you he will realise what he's about to lose and with abit of luck you will get your man back!"
I have to say I DO NOT AGREE AT ALL with the saying "men are all the same; commitment phobic, marriage phobic, baby phobic, the lot" AT ALL. Men are NOT ALL THE SAME any more THAN WOMEN ARE ALL THE SAME.
"but hey so are us women sometimes!" and so are men SOMETIMES is more like it.
I think it goes both ways and generally people who have had bad experiences with men on more than one occassion tend to brand them ALL the same. Likewise, people who have had bad experiences with women on more than one occassion tend to brand them ALL the same too.
THIS IS RUBBISH in my opinion. If ALL men are the same and ALL women are the same then how come some people have fantastic happy relationships, and some have disasterous ones?
p.s. I've just written a post in response to another question this evening which pretty much covers how to show yourself some TLC. Take a peek here http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-found-thers-hope-for-us-but-i.html
I hope this helps and best of luck :)
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): hi the saying is men are all the same
commitment phobic
marriage phobic
baby phobic
the lot
but hey so are us women sometimes!!
your best bet is to let him know that you care for him but leave the ball in his court to decide
in the meantime enjoy yourself and let him notice this happening if he is really meant for you he will realise what he's about to lose and with abit of luck you will get your man back!!
good luck darling xx
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