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writes: Hello,I have a problem with my fiance he has stomach pains so he went to the hospital for treatment, i asked him what the doctor said ! he ingorned my question and kept on saying to me to take care of my health. I dont know really i feel left out.Does he have the right to keep this to himself.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (22 January 2011):
Yes, you aren't his wife yet so technically you don't have a right to know what's going on.
Maybe it's something embarrassing he doesn't wish to share with you, or it's really nothing and there's no point in discussing it.
Do like Battista said, and just express your concern for his health. If he doesn't tell you then there's nothing you can do about it. Drop it, it's a petty issue.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (21 January 2011):
Just curious, do any of you aunts/uncles know if certain STD's can cause abdominal pain?
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reader, xanthic +, writes (21 January 2011):
He has the right to keep it to himself, yes, but that doesn't mean he should. You were obviously only asking out of concern, and considering you're his fiancee, he should at least let you know if it's serious or not and leave it at that. You can't force him to tell you anything if he doesn't want to, though.
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reader, Blonde68 +, writes (21 January 2011):
For me it wouldnt be the fact that he has left me out, it would be the fact that I would be worried that he doesn't want to tell me if it was something serious.
Perhaps he doesn't want to worry you.
Men do tend to bottle things up, which makes it worse for them in the long run.
Tell him you are extremely concerned and care about him and that it is worry you. Assure him that you are there for him should he want to discuss it, but don't put too much pressure on as it will probably just make him clam up even more.
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