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writes: Hello Listeners,I ended my relationsip with my ex boyfriend, unfortonately 6 1/2 years later. It took me this long because I was dead inside and couldn't find my way back to who I really was. Well I'll say he was real careful in the beginning. He played me just right. He caughtme off guard. I slowly but surely let my walls down so he would believe in my love for him. About 6 months later he had me doing anything to prove my love. He would cry at the opportune times which helped me to convince myself that he truly loved me. all he loved really was the fact that he had me snowed. I lost every last one of my friends because of him. You know why. He made it that way, so I wouldnt have anyone around to see how he would calculate to gain more control over me. Stupid me found myself in a state of mind that was very insecure and everything negative that can destroy a person. He had manipulated me soooo good you wouldnt believe it. He was cheating on me from the very start and would freak out if guys came over to talk to me and put pressure on me that I needed to basically put them in their place. Why? So he could keep me to himself and so on. He did so much towards me I cant fit it on this page or pages. Well 6 long dreadful years later I had finally got a grip, you know he had manipulated me, lied to me, hurt me, pushed me down so hard I miscarried our baby (Thank God for saving that child from the life of hell), cheated on me many many times, gave me several Veneral diseases in which I will have to live with for the rest of my life) pushed me down, grabbed me, hurt me only a little..Yeah Right' I thought it was a one time thing; he wouldn't hurt me! It happened slowly but it all (He was trying to destroy me), everything started falling into place this pie-- of S--- was killing me slowly, Guess what! Through my reading books about scre--- up people and how they are I finally but slowly found my self.I am back *Woo Hoo* and I will never make such a drastic mistake like that as long as I live. Last December he beat the sh-- out of me , he broke my rib, fractured my nose I was back and blue.He went to jail and he is still going to court because of this, but one thing bothers me, he has been lying to the judge and the PD he says he didnt touch me. I am checking into it this week. He is now dating a girl? and I happened to get her #, I want to so badly call her and gently tell her of this controlling MF he is, real smooth player don't you know, so she may not believe me. What should I do???
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2005): I was with a guy who at first seemed lovely...a gentelman etc. Lots of people said that i'd 'betta watch him' because he'd been known to abuse women in the past. As the famous,true saying goes 'love is blind' and i thought these people were trying to make me unhapy, that they were jealous...in the summer of this year he sexually abused me and i felt like such a fool... If you tell this girl at least you will know yourself that you have warned her...but i guarentee she won't listen...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2005): I AM IN A SIMILAR RELATIONSHIP, AND I WOULD NEVER HAVE BELEIVED ANYBODY AT THE START, EVEN HIS FRIENDS TRIED TO TELL ME WHAT HE IS LIKE, SORRY- EX FRIENDS.I STILL MAINTAINED THAT HE TREATED ME RIGHT, UNTIL RECENTLY.ITS ALL AN ACT, HES MANIPULATIVE AND CLEVER.I DONT BELEIVE THE GIRL WILL SEE IT UNTIL ITS HE SHOWS HER THAT SIDE OF HIMSELF ALSO. I WISH I HAD LISTENED BEFORE I GOT INVOLVED.
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reader, pops +, writes (30 July 2005):
I know a woman whose hasband beat her so badly she nearly died. She divorced and got away from him. She knew he married again, but didn't contact the second wife. Later, she heard that this woman also was beaten, and divorced the ex. Several years, after her remarriage, and move to another state, she got a call from his first ex-wife- the one before her, telling her that the ex was shot dead by his latest wife when he broke down a bedroom door in a drunken rage, threatening to kill her. She wanted my friend to agree to testify on behalf of the wife, should the authorities dare to charge her with murder. My friend agreed, but the authorities found the shooting justifiable homicide, and that was the end of that. While 4 women only received beatings before being separated from this monster, most cases end much more tradgically, with one or more of the women maimed, or killed by these guys. My friend still asks herself if she might not have been a better person if she had contacted Wife #3( the one after her she heard about) and told her about the abusive nature of her ex. She also wonders if she might have been spared the abuse she suffered if the first ex- who she didn't now anything about until the phone call- she didn't even know her husband had been married before her!-had warned her before she married the man. You decide if you can live with yourself not telling this woman what she is getting into, with the chance that she will be abused, or killed. I think you are strong enough to step up and warn this lady. This is the one way to force this guy to get help before he kills someone. I have several former clients who were killed by their husbands because they would not listen to warnings from me, their family, and co-workers. Make the call.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2005): Honestly? I think you should cut this man out of your life completely and have nothing more to do with him or his new girlfriend. If she isnt having trouble with him yet, she sure as hell wont thank you for interfering and it may cause trouble with your ex. Leave it well alone, she will find out what kind of man he is and hopefully have the strength to walk. The truth always outs eventually
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reader, Amore +, writes (29 July 2005):
Hi!Sounds like this person doesn't deserve another relationship. Manipulation in a relationship is a type of domestic violence, and can mentally cripple a person for life. It seems coming out of the chaos, has made you a stronger person, which is very respectful, and lucky.As for his new girlfriend. Definately, DEFINATELY, call her, say what an evil son-of-a-bi*** he is, describe what he done, and how good it was at the start. If she doesn't believe you, then ask her: Why the hell would you make something like that up. If she doesn't believe you, then it's her mistake, and she will be the one suffering. Trust is the key here, and it is always better to have a face-to-face conversation too, to put more emphasis on the matter. Think of it as your duty to make sure that this arsehole is shown for the mean bast*rd that he is, and save anyone else from falling for his evil charmsGoodd Luck hun, your gonna need it, X Amore
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reader, madmatt +, writes (29 July 2005):
Hi hun,
Please please please, don't get in touch with this girl! You really need to keep as far away as you can. I know this guy has hurt you but talking to this person will just dump you right back in it! I'm really glad your back to your old self but if u let get involved he'll just manipulate her like he did you. You know he can turn on the water works at the touch of a button so what do you think he'll do woth her. He will make you out to be some crazy jelous ex and there's nothing you can do. Change your number, change adress, just do anything to keep away from this guy who has taken so many years of your life away from you. Listen:
Yesterdays gone, forget about it. Tomorrows not here, don't think about it. Todays here, Live it!
I wish you all the best and most of all I hope you meet someone who diserves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2005): can you live with yourself if you find out he does this to another. she can either listen or hang up on you. by telling her could it "hurt" anyone?
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