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writes:Hello My b/f and I are going through a very hard time right nw. I have recently moved my things out and is living with a friend. I need him to show me effort and that he cares and loves me. Then I will consider moving back. He seem to be doin it so far. When I moved out he cried I have never seen him cry in the 3 yrs weve been together so I was caught off guard.Anyway it made me think tho that the last time I cried he just went to sleep.(before I moved out) He says that it was because we have been having the same convo for 4 months nw everyday.but I cant help think if he was crying there's no way in hell I would have been able to fall asleep on him. My question is: should I let this go and see what effort he gives me or is him falling asleep showing me that he doesnt really care?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): Look, for some reason women want to have these deep converasations or get comfrontational when we get into bed and want to sleep... my rule is that unless it's an emergnecy, no deep conversations after 10pm. My wife hs a bad habit of being cranky and sharing it... when she does this, I end up getting out of bed, since now I can't sleep.
he may have a different reaction... if you routinly do this, his response may be to roll over an go to sleep...
However, if you don't routinly do this, maybe he's just a selfish SOB... we don't know how many crying episodes you've had when you say "the last time I cried"...
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents  +, writes (7 October 2009):
 Well, it depends. How often do you cry and how often have you had this conversation? Because if you cry a lot and the conversation has been repeated a lot, it's nothing against him to fall asleep one time out of a hundred. You're probably both emotionally exhausted by now. I don't know what your guys's actual issue is, but if you've been arguing about it for 4 months, falling asleep once doesn't mean anything.
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