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writes:A few weeks ago, out the blue my fiance broke up with me saying she "needs space". She has also said a few other reasons like we don't have enough sex. This is a problem I thought we could either solve on our own or possibly go to a relationship counsellor to help. However she seems decided that she needs space.We had been going out 2 years before I proposed in Jan 2009 so we had been engaged for 1.5 years.An added complication was we lived together (so for now I am at my parents) and she texts/rings me to ask questions about the house (ie what we are going to do etc), so its extremely hard to "give her space"My (ex) fiance said that she needs a few months space and then we could go to a relationship counsellor if she wants to get back with me. SHe says she still loves me, but she isn't sure in what way and thinks the "spark" has gone out of our relationship.However all her actions since the "break (-up)" have suggested she is going to live her life and there is no-way back ie she had found a shared house to live in, and she also was very keen to let everyone know we had broke up straight away and the "engaged to" status on facebook was changed to single the next day!My question really is do you think this is over and she had just given me "hope" by saying give it a few months, or is there really a chance we could get back?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2010): hey if u really are meant for each other give her the time and space she needs things have a strange way of working out and belive me i bet she'll want you back after a few months sometimes its just hard to admit when you have made a mistake
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (16 July 2010):
 My ex-boyfriend broke up with me because he wanted space. I kept my hopes up that we'd get back together, but he hasnt come back to me after 3 months so i've given up on him.
It's really sad, but it's just one of those things :(
However, don't you give up just yet. She still loves you, so there's hope! maybe you should talk to her and ask if she'll ever want to get back together? then you'll have your answer.
All the best. I hope it works out xxx
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (16 July 2010):
There's no hope really. Even if you did, this is such a huge blow to anything that could come of it. She didn't even wait around to try to fix it. She just cleared off and made it clear to everyone it was over the next day. I'm sorry, but even if she did come back, she has proved that when the going gets a little tough all she will do is run away. I think it's over, and I think the best thing to do is to just get away from her. You don't want to end up back with her, only for her to run away again in ten years if you have kids or something. She isn't ready to commit, and it's best you end it and move on.
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