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writes:I have a problem. My gf and I have been fighting quite a lot recently, and we always say were sorry, but the fights get worse and warse, is it true that fighting makes relationships stronger? Because she is giving hints that she wants to give up on me... Reply to this Question
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (25 October 2010):
Fighting doesn't exactly make relationships stronger, but I think I know where you're coming from when you say that. It's not the fighting that makes it stronger (not if you just keep fighting and the fights get worse). It's what you do with the fights that can make it stronger. So it's the better communication, and the compromise to work through the problems. So some fighting, as long as it's handled well, has the potential to make for stronger relationships. So bear that in mind for next time. Keys to fighting "well": don't do it when angry. Use "I" sentences, not "you" sentences. Don't bring up past things. Compromise. Don't interrupt, let each other talk. Really listen. Try to see the other person's side.
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 No! You are misinformed, in fact it does the opposite putting a rift in your relationship. If your girlfriend has been hinting to you to break up with her, then break up with her since she can't seem to do it herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell thanks for the advice... but.... we broke up... hurts a lot, but I guess it was coming, thanks for giving me the advice, I will take it to heart in future relationships.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (25 October 2010):
 Who on Earth told you that fighting makes ANYTHING stronger? When anger is one of the world's biggest problems, when it often leaves people hurt and weeping, why would you ever think that fighting makes a relationship stronger? No it does not so, if you wish to keep your relationship healthy and alive, I suggest you rectify whatever it is you did wrong and see to it that the fighting stops.
I hope that helps.
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