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writes:Does drinking make you mature? I don't drink and people think it's because I haven't matured and not responsible. Some people say to me "Oh man up, I started at the age of 13. In my opinion I think that's daft! I've had a glass of alcohol today down a cousins to try. The reason I don't drink is because I don't like it a lot. If I was a lover of it like I love coke maybe I would drink. But I told this girl today I'm not a lover of drink, and she was like WHAT!?!. Here in the UK you have to be 18 to buy drink.
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reader, philipk769 +, writes (4 March 2011):
Well my hat goes off to you for holding youre ground under such pressure in such a challenging environment! You are a very strong person and youre sense and independence will pay off tenfold later! KEEP IT UP!!
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reader, Abella  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 you sound smart, strong and independant. And you know who you are and what you want. I admire your strength. And i think you will do well in life
Best Wishes, Abella
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reader, Nay_ox +, writes (27 February 2011):
Nay_ox is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou everyone. I never let people tell me what to do. If I see a person with a drink I always have a sip to try because It's my choice..just like trying out new foods. I had half of a glass of lambrini I didn't mind it at all. That's all I drank because I don't want to get drunk. I've tried shots and all type of things with an adult being there. Back a few months ago all my friends went camping and most of them were drunk. They tried to get me drunk but I told them no. anyway, I coulden't belive the language on some of the girls. They were mostly sexual things. This one boy then started throwing fireworks about so I told him to stop then I left. some of my friends started walking me home then he came with us then they all got in his car to drive me home. But I didn't jump in that car with him!! I've had to dump some of my friends because of their behaviers but it's quite upsetting because we all use to be so close to eatchother. Oh and now socity is getting worse where I live! girls are started to drink now at the age of 13-14.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 February 2011): The most mature person is the one who is able to say that he doesn't like something and stands by it. They are not easily swayed into doing something that others would say otherwise and they won't let others opinions break them. Drinking is not cool when you overdo it. A person who drinks only one drink and says he's had enough and knows well enough that he can't drive home and takes either a taxi or designated driver is mature. Don't do something just because everyone else does it. If you don't like something why else would you drink or eat or do it? Be strong and stay strong. Don't let anyone tell you otherwise.
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 February 2011):
and a PS to my post:
I am not implying that all people who drink have trouble. They do not. Many are fine at pacing themselves. But others can't do that.
And the girl in the bar, who had been screaming at her boy friend, had been trying to convince him to not drive his car. When she took his car keys off him it was implied she was going home with friends who had a designated sober driver in their car. And who had a moment before started leaving to go home together. It was only a few moments later that everyone realised that instead she opened up her BF car and reversed. Even she had not meant to do what she did. But she was drunk, and made a split second wrong decision, made worse and without thinking,
because she was drunk
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reader, Abella +, writes (27 February 2011):
hi
I am an adult and I made a choice to never drink alcohol. It is a decision I have never regretted. And i think i have a better life because i do not drink.
And yes people who do not drink will get pressure to drink. But it's all rubbish reasons. I try to be logical in my life. My work depends on it. And no one has ever been able to advance logical reasons why i would be better off drinking alcohol.
Now this does not mean i do not go out with friends. Because i do.
And i am non-judgemental about other people drinking in my presence, as long as they can handle it without becoming abusive or paralytic.
And my friends and I do have great fun together, even though i do not drink, but some of them do.
Never let ignorant people tell you to drink alcohol if you do not wish to do so.
But for those who do drink excessively and perhaps do not recall how bad it can get?
Just how mature do the following sound to you? These are situations i witnessed when at Uni when some new to Uni get completely wasted from alcohol drunk to excess at Uni functions
As a non drinker I will never leave the bathroom strewn with vomit from over imbibing on alcohol.
As a non drinker I will not slump to the floor crying my eyes out over something i can't remember what it is anyway because i over imbibed on alcohol.
As a non drinker i will not grab the car keys off a BF after a public screaming battle in the bar, walk out the bar clearly drunk, boy friend too drunk to follow her, get in car, reverse at speed in the carpark and in seconds kill a man with reckless DUI and end up in gaol
Many people start drinking alcohol and can handle it. But a proportion of people
Cannot handle it. They go on to ruin lives, theirs and others. And it puts on weight
especially the stomach area. And over time excess alcohol also kills off brain cells. Often quite young people get sick from alcohol - delirium tremors is the one i am thinking of - they end up so sick tjat they have to be hospitalised with old people as the alcohol has so pickled their brain. And pregnant women ruin lives when they drink excessively during the pregnancy. Especially in the first 3 months of pregnancy. They give birth to babies with FAS (facial alcohol syndrome) where the babies have flatter faces, abnormal development, cry more, cannot settle, are excessively restless, and have lower intelligence than if they did not have FAS. Doctors can tell immediately when a severely FAS affected baby is born, just from the look of the baby. Tests and measurements then prove that problems are ahead for that child for the rest of it's life.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Yikes. Drinking doesn't make you mature. It makes you drunk! You are also not old enough physically or mentally to handle its effects, and it could actually impair your brain development, not to mention get you addicted, which would be really bad for your future dreams.
About 60 years ago, a very large percentage of people smoked because movies and society told us that it was a rite of passage into adulthood. Now, that figure is drasticly reduced because more people now know the horror of the effects of smoking.
Do not ever let your peers pressure you to drink, smoke, drugs, or sex. You don't like it. You don't want to do it. End of story. Tell these peers who are pressuring you to back off, that you don't need that to be cool or mature, and you'll stick with drinking soft drinks or water or whatever won't make you puke, pass out, black out, make horrible decisions, act like a fool, or put you in the position to be sexually assaulted by some guy who may use your drunk status to take advantage. Mature my ass.
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reader, confusedlover10 +, writes (27 February 2011):
 drinking does not make you mature, what makes you mature is the way you handle or control your drinking by not letting yourself act a fool while drunk. if you do act a fool while drinking, you will be everything else but mature. drink responsibly and make sure you have really really good friends near by that will not allow you to act wild.
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reader, philipk769 +, writes (27 February 2011):
Absolutely false. You know what will mature you and strengthen your character? Not giving in to peer pressure, sticking with what you believe to be right. If you believe that you are too young to drink, or if you just choose not to drink, then don't drink! There is nothing wrong with drinking in moderation, but I have great respect for tea totalers, they can be relied upon at any given moment, and show great integrity and self control. If you brave the pressure that your peers may put on you, you will flourish from it with great discipline.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Its group pressure. People who are insecure about their own choices will try to make everyone else do as they do to feel better about themselves.
Don't tell them that though or you will find yourself in a fight. Best not to push people's sensitive buttons. But you are right, drinking does not make you mature. Trust in your own intelligence and logic, it sounds spot on to me.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Drinking doesn't make you mature at all. People still do it and thats fine. If you are able to have a social drink and not get drunk good for you. A little acohol is good for you but there is no need to be getting drunk all the time and thinking that it is the only way to have a good time.
I started drinking at parties when I was seventeen and I admit it I did get drunk but it was never necessary for me to have fun and I didn't consider myself to be mature in doing so. The maturity comes in when you can tell yourself that you will have one drink and thats all. It's better then trying to hide temptation like it is a bad thing. Also if you don't like the taste then why bother drinking. I learned early on that I would rather drink something that I like and spend the money to do so then get drunk of cheap garbage.
With your attitude you should do just fine with people drinking around you. I'm not much older then you are and I want to be proof to you that you can go out and have fun with no drinking or maybe just a few. I'm heading to the bar tonight with a group of friends and it will be a blast. Some will drink and others won't, once you get a little older people don't bug you so much about it.
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reader, smiliek  +, writes (27 February 2011):
 Drinking that young shows a high level of immaturity, not the other way around. Research has shown that teen drinking can lead to many many issues, as their brains are too young to cope with what alcohol can do. There's a reason there's legal ages set. Your friends are on their way to alcoholism and all sorts of problems just because they think its ' cool' to drink young. I wouldn't ruin my life because of peer pressure
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (26 February 2011):
You're the smart one. You're the one who won't wind up getting drunk and having sex with your best friend, or best friend's boyfriend. You're the one who is less likely to be raped or abused. You're the one who won't get arrested for drunken behaviour etc etc.
You seem very mature. If you can keep your head, your life will be a lot better off for it.
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