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writes:Let me just start off that i met this guy in 2009 on youtube and we used to talk all the time about music and politics. It was just 2 people talking about things we loved. He lives in Ireland and I live in Canada. It was obvious we had strong chemistry but knew it couldn't go anywhere because of our distance. It was really hard for me because I really liked him/ I never met a man like him before. Dont get me wrong I can get men here where i live but they didnt strike me like this guy.. And I know that when you meet someone in person its different than on the internet, but for us it was different because we would talk on webcam and could see eachothers reactions when speaking about stuff.Anyways, we spoke from may 2009 to january 2010. I saw on his facebook that he had a girlfriend. We always spoke about how much we liked eachother and how we wished we could be with one another. He was literally all i could think about ,and just one of the most beautiful, kind and talented guys i ever spoke to. I saw a picture he was tagged in that said 'me and my bf' and it was brand new. He wasnt online and I couldnt wait to talk to him since I was freaking out, so I sent him an email that I cant talk to him anymore and that its unhealthy for me to get my hopes up for something that will never happen. Of course I cant blame him for dating a girl, I mean I was dating too but I just wanted the truth..So after that I cut all ties with him, its a year later and yes I still think about him. I mean I dont think about him all the time, but he does come across my mind since I left things up in the air with him and he never contacted me after that email. So the other day he was just rushing through my mind and I felt i needed to speak to him so I re-added him on facebook. He right away said hi to me and started appologizing before I could ask him how he was doing. I told him that its over with and he told me that the girl was literally 2 days before I wrote that letter when he started dating her. I told him everything I didnt and was too scared to say when I spoke to him yesterday. I really do believe him. He also said that he wanted to add me but never could because I blocked him on everything and that the only thing that he could see if i was ok and alive was on my youtube profile picture. He told me that he still thinks about me and always did really like me but we lived so far away so nothing could happen. And just like in 2009 he still to this day wants to see me. And now its for sure that hes coming to canada for other reasons in may but wants to see me too. It almost made me cry when he told me that the only way he could see me is to go to my youtube channel and see me picture there and that he thought of me alot throughout this year of us not speaking, and that he had just a few days ago been thinking or writing me and email and i was just thinking of him few days ago. I know it sounds stupid but its as if fate is bringing us back together. In the back of my mind i always thought that him being as far away as he is that i still had no connection with anyone else like i do with him. i cant explain it but i wish to meet him and i will only say this on here but i hope if everything goes well when we meet that i can be with him one day, and if this a year later still worked for us i believe it will happen but i dont want to get my hopes upI thought we would never speak again but its like fate has brought us back together, and i dont know where anything is going to go but all i know is that my feelings havent changed for him and i think its the same for him.. I just dont know if this is a good idea ?
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reader, lynxy  +, writes (3 February 2011):
 I met somobody from europe last year ,now we're engaged after a two years chatting online so It is definetely the right thing.but it is not the time to think that you are really meant to be. first spend some time with him know better each other, then later when he's gone you will see if he wants to have something serious with you and all that stuff. sometimes is better not think too far in the future if you're meant to be together everything will go as you want it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): I met a man online too - almost a year ago. Also from Ireland, strangely enough. Someone who I thought was wonderful and caring and loving. He told me he loved me, that I was his world, and that he wanted to come and see me (I live 6000 miles away). All the talk about his coming to visit and wanting to marry always came from him. A short while ago, he vanished. Deleted his online profile, deleted his email (he would never give me his phone number - should have been a massive red flag but love is blind as they say). Frantic with worry, checking hospitals and obituaries, I eventually asked someone to go around to his house (the address he'd given me) to check on him because he had supposedly been very ill. Turns out he's never lived there and after doing some additional checking, it seems that everything else he told me was a lie too. Maybe even including his name.
Needless to say, I feel like an absolute fool and now have to somehow pick up the pieces and move on without every having any closure.
So whilst I really do hope this works out for you, my advice is just to be very careful. Guard your heart, trust your instincts and take it one day at a time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2011): So wait, he doesnt have a girlfriend, right? I think you should definitely meet him! Dont expect too much though. Just be prepared to hang out as friends and see where that takes you. Who knows, life is funny sometimes.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (27 January 2011):
 Good idea or not, if you feel that strongly for him, I think you'd be stupid not to meet with him when he comes. How many opportunities like that will you get?
Long term logistics aside, I think you should grab that opportunity.
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