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writes:please helpI just split with my boyfriend. Met him earlier after a week of not seeing each other due to my college exams. He barely said a word to me. He is genuinely sick all day from a hangover. He just didn't care whether he saw me or not. I wonder did he even miss me all week... he's so hard to be with..never shows me any affection, takes up to 45mins to text me back. We're togehter 2 years. The spark is most definately gone. He takes me for granted big timethings havent been so great lately, no interest in sex or anything(on both our parts).I do love him and i believe he loves me, he just doesnt realise he's an ignorant self involved person. Sometimes i blame myself for always being there when he wanted me to be. Please advise, maybe we're not meant to be together at all. Do you think this is really the end...
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2007): i am going through a similar situation also.
ive been with my bf for almost 3 in half years and ive lost feeling for him. i know i love him and really care about him and i know he feels the same but i just dont want to be with him anymore. we started dating when we were young so i never had a normal teenage life. i think its time for me to be free. he is interested in sex but im not, its just so much going on!
it sounds like you made the right decision, this guy sounds like an ass. he cant even send a simple text message saying something for almost an hour! dont blame yourself, its not your fault you were trying to be a good girlfriend!
just try moving on you deserve better!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (2 December 2007):
 I have to ask you sweetness, where is the appeal of this guy? He sounds like a creep!! Why would you want to be with him anyways, when he doesn't give you affection, he's ignorant, self-involved, doesn't respect you or care enough to text you back...
It also sounds like your relationship has been over for awhile - neither of you have been interested in sex, or anything.
I do think it is the end. Even if there is a chance that you can be back together, I don't think you should be - find someone who treats you well, who genuinely cares about you, respects you, makes you feel loved and beautiful.
Find somebody worthy of your time, not this guy.
Don't blame yourself for anything except for staying with him too long. Find yourself a REAL man.
Good luck, sweetness!
xxIndia
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2007): I have a similar situation with my boyfriend currently. He only realises that I am a pretty decent person to be around if I leave. begs me to come back then a month later ends up being exactly the same. I havent had the guts to leave him yet as I do love him and like you I believe he loves me also... but is love really enough?He probably does love you, your right, but this guy clearly isnt providing you with what you need, just as mine isnt. It takes some guts to leave and stay left, and I do believe one day I will do it and not come back. and to be honest by the sounds of it this is the best idea for you to.it will be hard. really hard but you deserve someone who wants you around, who keeps you feeling like your wonderful, whether its been two mins, two months, two years or twenty.Good luck
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