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writes:I am a 47 yrs of age man, an artist, and I've dated young women for a while, mostly friendships, based on similar interests like wine, dinning, companionship, and of course sex. About a year ago, I met this girl, she's 17 yrs younger, and what i thought would be a temporary friendship turned into me falling in love first, then after our first trip she told me she loved me for the first time. we get along, we have fun, and when we are together we seem to enjoy each others company, we live 2hrs apart so I see her on the weekends, during the week I go crazy because i don't see her, I want to be with her at all times. we have traveled together to my home town, she's met my family, brothers, sister, etc, and she got along great with everybody, I felt in love first and told her without hesitation, I told her she's the woman I've envisioned as the ideal woman, and would like to marry her, she has hesitated with the idea, and every time i bring this up she seems to get bother by me talking about it, although she talks about kids "our" kids at times, my dad was 20 yrs older than my mother and they really loved each other and had a great relationship, I know times different, so do you think such a relationship now days can work? She wants 4 kids and I think I wouldn't mind at all as I would like to make her happy, my dad married at 41 and had 5 kids and he was a great dad, so I think I can, any opinions? thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): if she is doing fine with your family,you love her,you have many things in common and finally and most important
you like her in bed
dont ever let her go !!
she is 30 so i believe she is wise enough
and the age gap in your situation is not a problem atall
good luck
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (16 September 2009):
 Go for it. It can happen. Just remember that it is for better or for worse, in sickness and in health. And four children is a lot of children. But if you are enthusiastic about helping to properly rear four human beings for 18 years, as they embark upon their adventures on this planet, then that's all you'd need. Otherwise kids take a toll. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2009): I don't know how long your dad was in your life. My dad remarried when he was 50, and had two kids with her. He certainly was a wonderful father when the kids were little, giving them piggyback rides, bathing them, singing to them, making them breakfast. Their very early years were quite wonderful since their dad was so young at heart and so loved them.
Nevertheless he aged. At 60 he didn't have as much zest as he did at 50. He started to slow down, as we all must, and by the time the elder of the two entered his teens, dad couldn't begin to get then-current culture. At 70 the youngest was 14, and his father was simply an old man who didn't get it. Dad died of cancer the next year, leaving two kids in their teens who never got the benefit of a father during the years they most needed it. Almost twenty years later, it still shows.
You're in love with a young woman who wants children. I think it's great that your relationship is what it is. But I really think you have to consider the future of any children you bring in to the world. I learned that my father had kids with my step-mother so that she wouldn't be alone after he'd gone. That may have been some sort of boon to her, but I'm not at all sure it was the best thing for his kids.
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