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writes:hello! So I've come to this web site because I'm stumped... my friends are stumped (except for my roomies BF who THINKS he knows) and well I need to figure this out. Okay so A few weeks ago we started college band camp (yes I'm a band geek) anyways I met this guy who is in my section and I instantly had a crush on him after he told me I was the perfect height... (I was commenting on how I was short and he was tall) I then made an effort to get to know him and help him out because I'm a junior and he's well a freshie. So then we became inseperatable for the ENTIRE week. Even at the football game we stood next to each other. We ate together (he bought me lunch and dinner and didn't want me to pay him back) he kept saying comments that made me blush (because they were sweet and one of them implied I was beautiful) He waited for me EVERYTIME i was behind and expected me to do the same... things like that. Now it's like the second week of school and he's bogged down with homework and being away from home for the first time so we haven't been connected at the hip. But We still have marching band together and we stand next to each other, he sorta flirts with me... I flirt with everyone so no big deal, he keeps on teasing me, poking me, touchinng me, tells me he's going to be late so I don't worry, and still ALWAYS AROUND ME during marching band. Okay now I'm not sure if he likes me as a friend or maybe he likes me just a bit more... from what I've told you first you'll probably be like "sure he likes you... I mean look what's he's done!" and from the second part I told you you'll be like "he's just a good friend" but see the way he's acting confuses me to no end because only ONE other guy in my life (who isn't related to me) has acted towards me like that. A guy who only acted that way because I knew him 12 years prior... and was my best friend... who I ended up dating... SO I can't tell if i'm in the best friend zone or the I like you zone... HELP!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSee I found out that there is this other girl he hangs out with (because they are in the same major) so now people are like. Maybe he likes her... so today I tried something different because I wanted to see if the ONLY reason he was always around me was because I wanted it to be so. SO I went to sectionals early... he found the spot next to me. I wasn't really in the mood to talk but he kept trying to make me laugh or at least trying to get me to talk back to him... That happened while we were in arks (he went right next to me again)and kept looking at me. Also when we were on the field marching He kept trying to talk to me... and he got a little upset that others were making me laugh more than him... Then at the end of practice I had to go find my cousin so I zipped through the crowd and I found him just standing by the edge looking for me... I stayed by cousin but then he found the girl that he also might by interested in and stood by her, then he went to the music educator meeting with her. I'm confused and so I realised he really likes to be around me but maybe I should just keep trying to be his friend... but I think he's sooo damn cute and I still like him...
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): I think he is sweet on you, but you are older than he is and being a freshman, he may be worried you will think he is dumb if he just boldly asks you out. I agree try giving him some encouragement and stop flirting with other guys in front of him....make him feel like he has your full attention. By having a conversation with him where you repeat back what he just told you in different words than he used, will make him feel that you understand him.
People like that, and need it to feel close, if he feels he can open up to you he will grow a little dependent on you for friendship, which is not a bad thing.
Friendship is an important foundation for romance. Touch his arm back and let your touch linger a bit....guys respond a lot to touching.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDoes no one have suggestions?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 September 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question...please somebody help me... : (
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