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male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am really fond of a girl I work with and she has admitted that she really likes me. However, she is involved with the father of her child. They have been engaged before and she told me that she is with himbecause she believes that a family should try everything to be together.However, she constantly moans about how badly he treats her and although it is good at times, they seem to have arguments frequently.I've been there for her, perhaps selfishly thinking that by showing her how much I care that maybe she would have the strength to, if not be with me, at least not waste herself on this man who seems to take and give little back. It hurts when I know I can make her happy and she even admits that I would.I decided this week that I would not text her anymore and politely told her that I didn't want to speak to her at the moment while I try to distance myself from the whole situation. I can't bear the thought of notspeaking to her yet I can't allow myself to become anymore emotionally involved in her situation. I am there for her but don't want to be used as a vehicle to make herself feel better when the boyfriend treatsher badly. She seems to text me on a regular basis, not other people she's close to, about the smallest things and I was the person she came to when he banned her from her own kid's birthday party last week! Can you believe she puts up with this? How cruel is that? I comforted her. Yet, despite all his, she ran back to him after a week when he decided he was ready to talk to her! It's so frustrating thatshe allows herself to be treated this way because she deserves so much.I feel like telling her what I'm feeling but the fact we work together quite regularly means that it could be very awkward. I know I'm doing the right thing by staying away for a bit. I just hope she doesn't thinkthat I don't care about her anymore.
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reader, so sick  +, writes (18 August 2007):
OKAY...yes it is important for a child to have a father figure.....that doent mean it has to be a biological father. What you need to do is get her out with you...let her know what it feel like to be treated right!!! I see this so much where I live...young moms stuck with there piece of shit boyfriends because they are the father. Fuck that...if you will step up and take care of her and love and also the child...try and work your way in!! You will both be happier in the end...and the child will probably have a better life also. I say...go for it! Just really wow her when you get the chance so she will think of you next time she is with him!
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