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writes:do you think she doesnt wanna see me?so this all happend last year when i was at work and i went out to the lobby and i saw the girl i used to liked back in high school sitting at the table with her boyfriend i guess she was waiting for her food at the table because i saw her looking over at the front counter when i went out to the lobby and saw her though i stood there looked at her from afar but i looked away and went back to work.but now i keep seeing her boyfriend picking up food for the both of them at the place i work at soo i guess she doesnt wanna see me so she makes him pick up the food there. but this also happend last year when i went out with my friends to the mall and i guess she was also there with her bf so i guess she saw there and was talking about me to him because when i turn around i saw him looking at me. i guess she told him theres that guy who kept on staring at me back in high school.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (7 October 2018):
 We have no way of telling whether she is avoiding you or not but, if your interpretation of the situations you describe is correct, then it is quite possible she is trying to keep her distance.
You need to completely ignore her when you spot her. Turn away the instance you see her and pretend you have NOT seen her. If you are still making a point of staring at her, then she is probably slightly concerned and uncomfortable with this unwanted attention, hence the hurrying away.
Do you have a sister or another female with whom you are close? How would you feel if they came to you and said "I keep seeing this guy who keeps staring at me and I am not comfortable with it"?
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reader, Alexander_santos +, writes (4 October 2018):
Alexander_santos is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni guess she doesnt wanna see me then because the other day i was at the store and she saw me there and she was walking fast and she went the other day lol so i guess shes advoidng me then
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 September 2018):
 No it sounds like she doesn't want to see you. Maybe you scared her with your staring and even now when you saw her at the restaurant you kept looking at her, that is enough to scare any girl. You need to keep your distance from her, if you see her don't stare just walk away like she is a stranger.
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reader, Alexander_santos +, writes (28 September 2018):
Alexander_santos is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut the other day i saw her again while i was at the parking lot going to my car and i saw her at the parking lot walking and she saw me but then she walked fast and went the other way lol i guess she doesnt wanna see me then
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 September 2018):
 You guess- but you don't know for a fact. It is quite possible she just told her bf " I used to go to school with that guy over there " ;or also that she did not say anything , and her bf just happened to look your way by chance. Anyway… supposing you guessed right : so ? You WERE staring at her all the time in school ; and that must have been disquieting or confusing or annoying to her, so when she saw you again, she commented on that. Very natural.
Ditto for the picking up of food. There may be dozens of reasons why it was done by the bf; then again, maybe she did not want to have to deal with other staring sessions, and that's understandable too. Lots of people don't like to be stared at, not even in admiration. They find it uncomfortable and invasive.
Anyway, that's all in the past. It was last year - nothing happened- and the girl is taken anyway ,and will have no part in your present or future. Try to focus your thoughts and attention on the here and now, on what and whom is around you at the moment, it will serve you much better.
And don't stare ! Don't gawk at girls as if you had suddenly come across some sideroad freakshow. People may like to be looked at with admiration, a glance accompanied , say, by a warm smile ot a " hi", something signaling non- verbally " I mean no harm. I am just enjoting what I see ! " - but surely they won't like being repeatedly stared from a distance by some stony- faced stranger. That can be somewhat creepy.
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reader, Alexander_santos +, writes (24 September 2018):
Alexander_santos is verified as being by the original poster of the questionbut idk why i still think about this stuff because all of this happend last year. but this also happend last year when i went out with my friends to the mall. so i guess she was also there shopping with her bf so she saw me and was talking about me to her bf because when i turn around i saw him looking at me but then he looked away. i guess she told him theres that guy who kept on staring at me back in high school
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (17 September 2018):
Wow! If they handed out medals for over-thinking, you would be dripping in gold.
There are MANY reasons why her boyfriend could be picking up the food for them both. She might be ill. She might be working. It doesn't take two of them to pick up food. He might pick it up on his way past.
The problem with people who over-think as you do is that they think other people's lives revolve around THEM. This girl has a life of her own. Unless you have made it totally obvious you are staring at her. I doubt very much whether your seeing her and her not coming to get her food are linked.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (17 September 2018):
 She might worry that you are STALKING her, OP
She has a BF so she SHOULD be off limits. just because you "used" to like her in HS doesn't mean she owes you anything, no contact or chats.
Just leave the girl alone? I think you are creeping her out.
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