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writes:Hi!so just going through a break up and some advice would really be appreciated :)so I split with my long distance boyfriend a couple of days ago. we met online. he couldnt handle the distance anymore and said he needed to cool down even though he still liked me.we've been going for a year but met only once for 4 days. well we basically came to an agreement to calm down the phone calls and messaging and try to become more frieds to each other.he said once I'm done with univerity, he'd still like to give us a try if the circumstances were right.do you think this could work?thank you for any advicexx.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (26 August 2012):
 LDRs are very hard in general... when you have very little time together and you are at Uni... well then all bets are off in my opinion.
I think you need to be open to new relationships and experiences while you are at University and not tie yourself down to a dream...... FOUR days with a person does NOT mean you know the real him....
is there a shot.... maybe... but then there's always a shot for things... will you move to be with him? is he worth the risk?
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (26 August 2012):
If the circumstances were right for who exactly? If he can’t handle the distance, presumably the circumstances would only be right if you were close to him geographically. Does this mean you have to move to his area, or is he prepared to relocate to be near you? It sounds like this guy wants some-one he can see on a regular basis, and if that isn’t possible because of that other person’s circumstances, he doesn’t want a relationship. What’s clear is that, in order to make that work, some-one’s going to have to make some big sacrifices. If he isn’t prepared to try and cope with the distance anymore because you’re studying, it sounds like the expectation will be on you to make those sacrifices. If he thought enough of you, he’d try and make the best of it even if the circumstances were far from ideal because of the distance. You’re probably better off just accepting that it’s over and moving on.
I wish you all the very best.
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