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writes:Hiwe are couple in our mid 40 and have had our ups and downs. we are currently in a down time and things get tense. we have had a very active sex lfe and tried most things over the past 25 years. my wife has a great body and as always looked after herself. she recently had her normal bikini line done by a good friend and had a full brazilian, she thought it would spark things up between us. during sex after she had had it done she told me even though it was painful, she enjoyed the the feel of her friend doing it.she will not tell me any more. her friend is married and her husband is always out and leaves her alone. do you think she is looking for a woman relationship?
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 I think that if your wife was considering cheating on you or straying, she would NOT have told you about her bi-curious feelings that she experienced. I have to say, I would rather a total stranger wax me, personally. No one but my husband sees my nether regions... But I did have a very funny Canadian-Italian esthetician who did my waxing. She always had a funny story or two, and she said that one girl told her "Honey, You out me in more positions than my husband does!". But I digress...
Here's what I think, your wife was getting waxed to titillate you, and she probably told you this "lesbian" fantasy for EXACTLY the same reason.
Recent studies and conjecture on bisexuality is that women have the ability to go to "any port in a storm", but men who are bi have a tendency to be gay and that women are probably closer to being bisexual in nature than men are. I don't really know the answer to that.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (23 July 2008):
 I'd be surprised that she'd tell you if she was really contemplating something like what you're thinking. She'd have kept it to herself, I think. I don't know, I don't know your wife or the way she thinks.
Maybe she was being honest, that it was intriguing in some way, but your reaction then stifled any further discussion?
Try to talk with her again about it, but be sure that it is done in a calm and loving way. And LISTEN to her. You two have been married a long time and sound like you have a very good relationship, so I'm probably lecturing a man who knows his own wife very well.
If the current 'down' period is particularly bad, she may just have found a very upsetting way to knock you back on your heels. Maybe it's time to work not only on this comment she made, but the entire relationship?
Good luck.
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reader, dreamflower +, writes (23 July 2008):
 Honestly...I don't think she is. Just because she felt more comfortable having her friend do the waxing, doesn't neccisarily mean she wants to have sex with her. I know, as a woman, that I would much rather have my best friend wax my nether-regions than a complete stranger. Doesn't mean I want to sleep with her! I would focus on strengthening your communication with your lady, to try and draw back her interest. Every woman has something or another that turns her on...all you have to do is figure it out and make it work! Int he meantime...don't stress. I don't think she'll be running off any time soon.
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