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51-59,
anonymous
writes:I wrote in earlier this year regarding my suspicions with my husband and some work colleague. He received a happy birthday text in full with a kiss and she sent an e-mail to him starting "Hello Darling", the past few months i have left things and was happy to believe him when he said nothing had happened between them. The other day he had a trip arranged with some male colleagues and so was away for 3 days. I have no problem with him going away on business or pleasure and never have done. Many people think he has a great life as he has a wife who does not mind him being away, he also has a season ticket (with our son) for footie. Prior to him going away i saw his work e-mails (i know the password) there were jokes etc about them going away as you would expect, one colleague made a comment regarding her in a sexual way with my husband, this could have been a joke but bringing her into it seems very personal and my suspicions from earlier on this year have been roused again. Back in March he was on a business trip (her too, i found out) he did not tell me, he was horrible to me before going away on that trip, i thought as it was our son's birthday the day he was away this was the reason, but i found out later she was there too.I feel sure that something happened between them, she certainly was showing familiarity. He denied this in the past but then he would, told me i was imagining it pretty much. The hotel receipt for that night away has never been seen by myself yet he has to keep them to claim expenses, i don't think anything is going on now, but then? I know people will say if nothing is going on now then don't make an issue about it, but i need to know. Also last year he was in a hotel with her, again a business trip for a couple of days.What do you think?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): Everything points to the toad having an affair. Find the evidence, confront him and be the one whose head is held up high.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (22 September 2008):
 Don't "play your hand" right now and reveal your suspicions. Simply continue as if things are perfectly normal. That will allow you some time to observe each of their behaviors without tipping him off. Keep a log, snoop for receipts, get a record of his cell phone calls, do anything that helps YOU clarify whether or not you are right to put your trust in your husband.
Don't nag him or make him think that you don't trust him, that isn't what a loving wife would do. Frankly, he is your husband, and you shouldn't be having suspicions about his behavior with other women. If you are suspicious enough to write us, it would seem that your women's intuition is trying to tell you something. Best of Luck with Everything and Hope things go well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2008): Trust your instincts. There is absolutely no reason for another woman to be calling your husband "darling" or to be giving him text kisses, not even as a "joke". If I were you I'd tell him I was suspicious, explain why and see what he has to say. His reaction will tell you everything.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (21 September 2008):
 I can understand your anguish, and I'm with you in that. However, I can't really tell whether something has happened or not. I'm sorry I can't help you remove doubt, "the worst enemy", as a song goes.
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