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writes:Is it possible to have a very short relationship and connect on a level of intimacy that literally makes you shake (no, vibrate is more the correct word, i think), as soon as you are around that person? And I dont mean butterflies when you like someone. This is totally alarming. I shake so bad I drop things. Its proving to be quite debilitating, and he thinks its kinda funny, for now, but I bet that will wear off soon, and I hope this does. I really really really like this person, and I think he likes me, but I have never had a reaction to someone like this. I've been nervous around other men before, even really good looking men like him, but they have never had this effect on me. Please help. I dont want him to think im some nut or something. Reply to this Question
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (12 February 2008):
 Things are new, it seems like an extension of the standard nerves and butterflies that most people get. I'm sure it's difficult but try not to think of it, it will fade when you become more comfortable around him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni know hes noticed it, and im not insecure in bed, but not to sound egotistical, but its not that. He makes me feel so good, its like electrical current, and thats what makes me nervous. He touches me just right, and at the right times, you know? His personality does it too. Im kinda freaking out about it.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (12 February 2008):
 Actually , some men do not notice it while some men find it amusing or ego boasting when they see you shake.LOL!
Whoa! The men can feel the power over you. The ground can shake and your knees become weak.
Just like beautiful girls see the men all making a fool of themselves in front of them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): I had this problem when I first started dating my boyfriend. I think it stemmed from my lack of experience and fear of people, as well as the intense feelings I was having for him. I so did not want to make an ass of myself. Thankfully it went away quickly as we got more used to one another. I think that will happen for you too. Just give it a bit of time. If he is worth it he will not let it bother him and will give you that time. I found out later on that my boyfriend never really noticed how shaky I was, because he was so concerned about how shaky he was. Go figure!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, but he does like me, hes proven that so far, but geez, it doesnt get any better. Especially when he does something nice, or touches me, or looks at me. Its rediculous, lol. And as far as not holding something, lol, well thats kinda hard not to do. But if it will go away, that would be best...
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reader, Laura1318 +, writes (12 February 2008):
It is only temporary as your body goes into an involuntary spam..LOL! Try to sit down or don't hold anything when he is around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2008): Well, you should try to calm yourself. Like when your around him think of something relaxing. And don't make it too ovious that you like him, try to make sure he likes you back before showing it.
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