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writes:I am 13 and I look at porn and masturbate. I have this urge to have sex, but know I shouldn't in case I regret it later. Do you think it's wrong to look at porn and masturbate?
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reader, lugnut1234321 +, writes (13 March 2013):
ok good i thought i was like the only boy in the world that does this at 13 lol but now i know i'm not alone i actually think it's ok i mean it's ur body plus puberty sets in about although mine started at 12 but anyways u should have the right to do wat u want with ur body just don't tell ur parents or somebody u don't trust
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reader, i need answers +, writes (5 August 2008):
omg thers a girl my age that looks at porn thank god a thot i was a rong person but reding this hased helped becus i relly dent know if girls wher like that and that all guys where purves but i ges its not rong becus where going throu so menny changes that we cant help awer self but want 2 know and thank a bout stuf like that...
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I think your being very mature and sensible about the whole thing. Please be carefull that your parents don't find out as they may not be as accepting as some of the people here. Your interested in sex and it probably feels nice, but do not neglect the other interests in your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): I think its natural to think about women and how beautiful they are. But remember that they are your partner in sex as well as in life. This is where the "real men" say stfu..etc. The problem with looking at porn is that after a while you start building an artificial image of what pleases you. My suggestion to you is to realize that all the girls in your age group are looking for confidence. That means having enough guts and intelligence to carry on a conversation with a girl and not think about what's she looks like naked, but if you do it's normal so don't sweat it.
God gave you all the answers inside you, all you have to do is find them. Though religion can be a wonderful GUIDE, it is just that a guide for what you should do unto yourself and others, this is the common goal of all religions. Love yourself with humility and you will love GOD inherently.
Just because your 13, 33, or 53 you still have it within you to figure out what you think is and isn't right, ethical, and healthy behavour.
To much of any habit is unhealthy. Ask yourself some questions, why do you need to masterbate? Do you need to feel good inside and masterbation gets you there?
Just remember , this isn't factual simply my opinion, but that's the point, it's my opinion and I know you have one too. If your smart enough to ask the question I know you are smart enough to think of the answer.
Good luck young man, I think you will do just fine.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 March 2008): Are there not any Christians on this blog to stand up and say that sex before marriage is WRONG. What about the repercussions; AIDS, unwanted pregnancy, STDS. Porn is mere fantasy and if you had to do some research on the actors, their lives are pretty messed up. Many of them can not have meaningful relationships some are addicted to sex and even a few years ago there was an AIDS crisis that hit the porn industry. I understand that you are having feels right now and are curious, but remember every decision we make stays with us. For instance if you start looking at porn right now, in your mind that will continue to feed in your mind and you will seek what your looking for. Sure everybody says go and have sex, its the norm. Well that norm will effect for the rest of your life. Save yourself so that you can enjoy that life mate. I speak only because I am a recovering PORN addict that started a the age of 11.I have fought with this for over 16yrs and by the Grace of GOD I am recovering.May God Bless the person that reads this insert. I
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2008): I think it is very normal, and quite natural for a 13-year-old to be interested in self-exploration. Looking at porn isn't wrong, either. Whenever I have time to myself, I always look at it, and masturbate. Never once have I felt guilty for doing it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 November 2007): It's normal to be interested in sex at 13. Nothing wrong with wanting to look at pornography at 13 either. (Although not everyone things you actually should be allowed to look at it yet.)
But you should realize that spending a lot of time thinking about/looking at anything will make you want to do it more. (You're probably not into gymnastics very much right now are you? And yet if you watched two hours of gymanstics shows tonight, then pretty soon you're doing tumbles and flips on the floor, right? Same thing.)
I'm not saying that you shouldn't have sexual feelings, but I am saying that you should maybe try not to remain so focused on them so much of the time.
And DO NOT act on feelings to have sex with anyone. Not for several more years. Part of being more mature and growing up is not just starting to have sex. It's having sex APPROPRIATELY. Handling it when it's the right time, and refraining from it when it is not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): im 13 and i felt exactly how u feel now. iv had urges to have sex but i stopped it because we're 13! looking at porn isnt bad, it's normal at this age. it's not going to hurt!
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2007): Personally if you were my daughter i would take a limb to you .. you are very young and you have a whole life ahead of you and you don't need to rush things, i was at one time your age and i had thoughts about things like you but i never did any of them and now i don't have any regrets at all... i never started dating until i was 17 and even then i never did anything that i would have regreted... but by the time i was 18 yes i did but i knew that i was ready.... so sweetie don't rush in to anything you have all the time in the world and the longer you wait the better it is and with someone you want to be with...
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reader, Curious George  +, writes (18 October 2007):
Hi sweetie,
I was 13 when i lost my virginity. I didn't regret it but thats not to say that i wish i had of waited. I thought I was in love with this boy (he really was a boy). the problem was he was alot older than me and i didn't realize how wrong that was. It all ended fairly badly with him being very controlling and me being stuck in a nasty relationship for five years. Just be careful, if you think your ready what i suggest you do is ask yourself three things. am i really doing this for the right reason? Am i being safe? and do i really want to have sex now when in years down the track it could be so much more enjoyable. Its up to you, and you only. Just stay safe. And darling trust me, there is nothing at all wrong with looking at porn!!! it fun!!
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (11 October 2007):
It's OK so long as you don't become addicted to it. Moderation is the way to go.
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reader, Emmajane  +, writes (9 October 2007):
 Porn is fantastic at your age. No harm can come to you and you learn about your own body and how to give yourself pleasure. This will hbe invaluable when you start relationships in the future.
Just remmeber that all those contortions they do in the films to get the camera angles are impossible in real life and that porn is fantasy, not reality. Enjoy!
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reader, rcn +, writes (8 October 2007):
 It's nice to see someone who's honest about it. I remember growing up, partially, the subject came up and all the guys, "nope, never done that, and never would." As you get older, you know they were full of it.
It's not abnormal to do that, It's part of growing up. I commend you for waiting to have sex. That is a very mature view of what not to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2007): Danielepew worded it quite well. When I was your age (wow, that was a long time ago), I had sexual urges all the time. It was a part of growing up. If you weren't sexual at all, I would have suggested that you go see a non-conservative doctor or specialist. [ponders] No, I guess that might be a bit too extreme.
Anyway, this is neither wrong or right. It's whatever you make of it. I remember my mom used to get mad at me for having clips of semi-nude women under my pillow. To this day, she still can't quite give me a reason why she thinks it's wrong. Conservatives might use religion to say it's wrong. Feminists may say that porn is the objectification of blah blah blah. Parents might just tell you that they didn't kiss until they were 30. They're just there to 'help' protect you. And I am off topic.
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As far as sex goes, surely, definitely wait a bit longer. There are health concerns as well as emotional concerns. At the unriped age of 13, your body still needs a bit more time to grow and stuff.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 October 2007):
 To be very, very honest, I would see a problem if you weren't interested in porn and masturbation at your age, particularly so if you don't want to have sex now. With time, you will outgrow these interests and will have real-life experiences.
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reader, XxAngelDust89xX +, writes (8 October 2007):
 No it isn't wrong. Actually I think it is a very mature way to handle your desire.
Have fun ;) ,
XxAngelDust89xX
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