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writes:dear cupid,soo, there's this guy. for security purposes, we'll just call him luke. we met about a week ago and have talked online and texted pretty much nonstop. we've also talked in person several times, and each time went really great. the first day we hung out, we had planned to watch a movie at his house...buuut neither one of us could shut up long enough, soo the movie was more like ignored background music for our conversation. and nothing was forced or awkward--we just sat there talking each other's ears off about anything and everything. the other times that we've hung out have been the same way.to put it simply, luke is...well, he's kind of like the male version of me. like, if i were a boy, i really and truly think that i would be just like him. that's something i've never quite been able to find before and something that i've been looking everywhere for. and things just come soo easy between me and him--like i said earlier, nothing is forced or awkward. it's kind of like we just...click.i was hanging out with him this morning, and we figured out that our last relationships are practically identical to each other. like, we've both recently been hurt in almost the exact same way and are feeling a lot of the exact same emotions. we had a really long talk about it (and cried), and it just felt soo amazing to finally be around somebody who really understands.in the time that i've been getting to know luke, i've been kind of starting to like him. but after the way that things were this morning, i'm totally SURE that i like him. and he told me that he likes me, too (which i had kind of already guessed from the way that he's been talking). the thing is, we're both still working on getting over our ex's and are both scared of getting hurt again. but at the same time...it kind of feels like there might be something that could possibly get sparked up between us. do you think it would be a bad idea if we DID get something going? and what would be the best way to approach that? any help is greatly appreciated.
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reader, LovelessAct1 +, writes (24 January 2012):
It's always a tough position when you really like someone, but are afraid of unresolved factors arising between you and your ex. How long has it been since your last relationship?
Well, I guess I would say to go for it, for one main reason; you were both mature enough to speak directly about your issues with your exes. Open communication is always the best way to correctly evaluate an unsure position, and its good to hear that you both were honest with each other.
I think if you take things slow and both agree to keep an open-book/honesty policy, you'll be able to start something new. But make sure you're careful about being around exes; that WILL complicate things. As long as you're in a new relationship, keep your exes out of your life until you're stable enough to handle it.
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