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writes:Hi, I wonder if anyone can help me!I'm 19 and have been in a relationship with my boyfriend since we were 16. It started out as just casual going out, and we just fell in love and suddenly it's 3 years later...I've never had a boyfriend before that, never so much as kissed anyone, and though I love him so so much I feel like we're both too young and inexperienced for this intensityI'm at uni now as well and most of my friends are single, so on nights out I'll end up alone while everyone is off pulling people...it just makes me wonder what I might be missing out onI've talked to my boyfriend about it and he says he loves me and is happy to commit - but I honestly feel like he's not taking it seriously? If we do stay together we will probably end up moving in, moving on in our relationship - what if we look back in 20 years time and regret not living more? What if we do end up moving in together/getting married, realising it doesn't work and then we've spent all this time together...the longer we're together the harder it will be to be apart as wellBut on the other hand...he's the most kind person I know, he's funny and he makes me happy...he seems to know who i am and like it which makes me feel incredibly lucky! But even despite all this i'm having doubts - what does this mean!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): I got with my boyfriend when I was 16, and 4.5 years later we're still together. He was also my first boyfriend, as well as everything else.
About 2 years into our relationship I started to feel the way you are now. I wondered if I was missing out and all that jazz. But then I really thought to myself... could I see myself with another guy? do I WANT to be with another guy?
The more I thought about it, the sillier it sounded to me. He made me happy and I loved him a lot. I soon realised that I didn't have the want/need to be with someone else.
Everyone's different though. It may be just a phase, but if it continues perhaps being in a relationship right now isn't for you?
Only you know what's in your heart. Decide how you feel about your BF, think about whether you could see your self with someone else other than him or not. And if you can, is that what you want to do.
Good luck x
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