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writes:Please help me! My ex and I had been together for year, on and off again. Everything was fine at first but then he became friends with the girl (Kylie) who's known for sleeping around and trying to sleep with all of the black guys here at school (My ex is black and star basketball athlete of the school). We started having a lot of problems and fights because he would flirt with her on fb and text her all the time and she doesn't even come to this school!! I asked him to stop talking to her and every time i'd ask him he's defend her and say it wasnt fair and whatnot. Well then summer came along and we were in a long distance relationship (I live in Washington, He lives in Florida) and didn't see each other all summer. We broke up a lot over the summer and would get back together mainly because of this girl and many other girls.. Then one time he decided to post on fb that I was sleeping around and had cheated on him. Of course he apologized and said he only said that he was mad so i forgave him. Then we came back to school and things seemed fine but then he started talking to this girl again and he kept talking to girls he knew were trying to break us up. I lost all trust in him and decided to check his fb, I read a msg between him and Kylie and this is what I found out. Over the summer, he told her the following: I go to clubs and see other SEXXXY girls there but I'm still with her, I wish you lived here in my city, You could move in my basement, I just need someone to take me away from her and other things like those. I told him about it and he said I shouldn't have gone through his things and I agree but I'm glad I did. He then apologized and said he only said those things cuz he was mad and we had been fighting a lot. Of course I forgave him and told him he had to stop talking to her. But once again it took about a month to convince him to do so and then a month later he asked if he could start talking to her again and proceeded to do so. I was fed up with everything he had done so I broke up with him during thanksgiving break. When we got back to school, he apologized and asked to get back together and of course my dumb butt decided to give it another chance. But two days later he said he needed a 6 week break to change the things he was doing so I gave it to him. I then found out he was talking and texting about five different girls and still talking to Kylie and flirting with the other girls who had been trying to break us up. Then winter break came along and I told him we were done for good but he insisted on that he was gonna get me back and he only wanted me forever. We then came back to school and we decided to try things again but he then told me that over the break one of the girls that wanted to break us up had helped him get through this and he was attracted to her. And now we're broken up. I also talked to him and I think he's depressed. I wanted things to workout between us but I can't forget everything he's done and said. I don't trust him and I don't think I ever will be able to. He says he needs time to change these things and to fix himself.. he wants another chance. Should I give it to him? or should I just move on? I still love him but I can't take any of this anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 January 2012): If i was you i would just move on and forget about him he isn't worth the heart ache he is playing you by the sounds of things i wouldn't trust him.
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