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writes:Ok, well theres a girl i really like, shes got the best sence of humour ever, shes beautiful, but the problem is, we have solidly been talking online and text messages for over half a year, but whenever i ask her to come out with me she makes an excuse? she doesnt live too far away but far enuf to make transport difficult, but ive asked her a good 5 or 6 times to come out (more times without much more follow up, like i will tell her she should come out, but not remind her), so far we have only gone out once, and are planning to go out this month (but ive got doubts it will happen). Basically, we get on well, i know she finds me attractive, funny, but why isnt she as eager as me to meet up often? ive talked to a few of her friends and they say shes shy, but i personally dont think thats the case, she seems so open and enthusiastic. Ive tried to stop talking to her, when we have had a fall out (we fight like a married couple) but i ALWAYS start talking to her again, and she even says she was really tempted to talk to me but waited until i did.She has also told me she always waits until a guy says he wants her, but i dont see how i havent said that without actually saying it, so that says to me she doesnt like me. do you think im wasting my time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): i disagree, i don't think you're necessarily wasting your time. I kinda think i can relate to this girl, though as i don't know her I can't be absolutely positive on what she is actually like. But anyway, i think you can by shy yet extroverted at the same time. Depending on the situation i am in i can either be heavily shy or overly enthusiastic. And also, it's easier to be enthusiastic whilst talking online, it's different from meeting in real life, easier i reckon. She could possibly be afraid of meeting you a lot because she feels she can't be the person that you most know her as online and possibly feels that your opinion of her might change. This is just a thought though, just adding some more perspective you know. Anyway, hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2007): I agree, I think you are wasteing your time.
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reader, sunrise +, writes (2 March 2007):
 I definitely think you are wasting your time, you've been out once in 6 months and you do all the chasing, she's enjoying the attention, she's probably got several people on line that she's treating the same way, it's an ego boost for her, she's not thinking about you or how you might be feeling.She may have a good sense of humour but she has a selfish soul. Log on one more time to tell her she's really not worth the effort. You can do so much better, dont waste anymore time on her, let some other mug x
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reader, lesbo  +, writes (2 March 2007):
I've had the same problem myself... i have been doing the same things as you with a girl i like for a year now. i don't know why woman do that, but yes i think you are wasting your time. the best thing to do is to continue to talk to her, but gradely less and less. start telling her that you are in to some on else, pay close attention to her reactions try to spot jealousy. if there is none then she probably doesn't like you back. if there is some then play your moves right, be cool, a friend, consult her when she needs help, and make sure you tell her that you do it because you love her.
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