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writes:HiMy fiance is 22, I'm 19 and our relationship is great, been together for a just over a year but see....on one anniversary I broke up with him, we got back together but his friends told him to choose between me and them, he chose me, but see thing is, My fiance has no friends anymore, and he doesn't see my point about me seeing mine, last year I had a period of "sleeping around" and my friends were 16, 17...this year they are all 18 and he doesn't see it as right that I see them cause he can't see his friends or even if I go alone with them, he wont go up to clubs with them (if i did go) cause he says he could get bashed...and we get into an arguement every time I bring it up...he's said that if i mention anything about seeing friends when we move in together, we are moving back to our homes, He judges my friends... fact is I hardly see my friends at all cause my fiance and I are always together...my two friends in particular hang out together and never invite me out to hang cause I'm with my fiance..but he thinks it's cause they are not 'real' friends... what should I do? I feel a bit controlled but i dunno...
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionProblem: I also cheated in the first two weeks of our relationship...Until like 6 - 8 months ago did he come out and tell me he has autistic tendencies....we never do much fun things on weekends.I love him too much to leave again but cant get the point about my friends across to him...cause he judges them and doesnt have his anymore...
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (12 August 2012):
This is clearly an unhealthy relationship. You are being controlled, quite a lot, and I think you need to seriously think about moving on.
He clearly has some issues, and rather than dealing with them himself, is just blaming you. He made his decision, and whilst it was to choose you, he can't now expect you to just drop everything for him.
Also, if you broke up before, there was something wrong then as well.
Seems to me that you need to really think about what you want here.
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