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anonymous
writes:Last night my new boyfreind and I were having sex and half way through I went to the bathroom,to find myself covered in blood.I hadnt realised I was due for my period..It was even on my face.We had the lights off and unfortunatly he had been going down on me before I made my discovery.Since its a new relationship..Im still shy with him and im never completely assured the feeling is mutual between us.I washed myself of went to the bedroom were he was waiting keen to resume things,I said something had happened and he should go to the bathroom.He went and came back said "ok..I see what you meen now". asked if I needed to change clothes or anything,did i want a shower..he was nice about it.. though I can only assume it would have been all over his face and in his mouth.He came back to bed and leant his shoulder onto me saying its ok its ok though his voice was shaking a little..I apologised and said I really had no clue..He kept saying "if we dont make it a big deal then it's no big deal"He was pretty shaken up though..Luckily there wasnt any blood on his sheets..I have never felt so mortified in my life..I keep thinking what if he'd been so disgusted it made him sick..since it went in his mouth and everything.Im scared he'll be put off by me.He was distant for the rest of the night and I dont blame him but Im so crazy about him..im really worried.What do you guys think?..And would be great to hear from people this has happened to also? Was he really put off after?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (12 August 2012):
dont worry, these things do happen although they are mortifying. a few years ago me and my ex woke up on christmas morning to find me lying with the bedsheet around me destroyed with blood (my period had come back in the night when I thought it had gone, it had gone on the 23rd or so I thought) it sounds as thought he took it quite well, so it sounds as thought hes a nice guy! seriously, if I think of my exes they would have all freaked out properly, so I think you can just reassure both of you by doing something nice and saying ''can we try to forget about that incident, I feel bad about it''. he might be embarrassed to bring up the subject but at least that way you can both put it to bed (literally ha)
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reader, katiekate  +, writes (12 August 2012):
 Certainly not the most pleasant of experiences, but stuff happens! It was an honest mistake, and I think you said all the right things- that you're sorry and you didn't know. I would just brush it off and move on. If he's really into you too, he will easily look past this and continue on with the relationship as normal. Try not to worry, as this sort of thing is not that uncommon. Some men are definitely petrified of menstrual blood and don't want to go anywhere near it, but a lot of men don't care. Just carry on as usual and don't bring it up again, unless you just joke about it. Joking about uncomfortable situations often helps to clear the air and lighten the mood.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (12 August 2012):
 Really you just have to brush it off and move on. Weird and sometimes gross things happen during sex. One time something very similar happened to me and my current boyfriend and the only thing that happened was that we both took showers and were grossed out for a bit, then moved on with our day. Not a huge deal. We frequently have sex while I'm on my period, which is ALWAYS a little gross. We have a special dark blue towel that we use for it, he just doesn't look while I put a condom on. Sex involves all sorts of bodily fluids and sometimes they get places we don't want them or behave in ways we don't like, it's just part of having sex.
You just have to basically pretend it didn't happen. Don't bring it up again, just move on and try again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2012): I dont think its a problem if he really cares about being with you.And if he dnt why bother trying.
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