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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together about 2 months. I'm about to be 16 and he's 18. We have really good sex but I always feel insecure about my body because he is obsessed with porn! Now I'm really small. Only 5'1" 107 lbs. He's 6'4" 225 lbs. He's a gym rat so he's always trying to improve his body. Every time we are watching tv he makes comments about the women he thinks are highly attractive. They are always thin with a large bust. I'm thin and average sized "up top" not too small but not huge and some of you probably have seen the naked katy perry pic. He has it set as his background on his phone and he tells me how sexy she is allll the time. So I got curious as to what exactly this pic was looking like so he showed me. I was very surprised. It didn't look to me like she was in amazing shape. I mean, yes, she has big boobs but she looked really boney to me with large thighs. I was expecting some pic that was all made up and airbrushed. He told me the other night that I should get implants when I'm of age because it would just make me look sexier. I just gave him an annoyed look and he pulled me close and kissed my forehead and said "baby I was kidding! You're perfect" but I was still annoyed. My best friend has realllyy big boobs and he says things like "oh why don't you borrow some of that from Brittany*" which irritates me as well. I feel really insecure about my body and feel as though I should lose weight. I'm a cheerleader so I think I have a pretty nice body but when he makes comments like this it just makes me want to start a crash diet (something I have done before with pretty good results). Do you think if I lose weight he will think I look better? How do I make him realize that this bothers me and that I'm starting to look down on myself?
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reader, Bam4Me  +, writes (21 September 2009):
Sweety, this guy is really not right in the mind. If he really cared about you, he would at least, I don't know, try to HIDE the porn from you! From what I here, he's trying to hint to you on something. Like telling you you need a new body or larger breasts. Your body, no matter what ANYONE thinks is perfect.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): No you dont need to loose weight your a good weight i mean your boyfriend isnt exactly the greatest guy in the world, he shouldnt say things like that to his gf, even so he isnt complaining about your weight its your top part, i say you tell him how insecure he makes you...good luck hope i helped xxx
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (21 September 2009):
Seriously, you can get better guys than this. I'd get rid of him. The idea of a boyfriend is that he takes you and likes you as you ARE, not as someone he wants you to be. You're far too young to have to worry about implants and all that. Nearly all porn stars have been airbrushed anyway. And why is he so obviously watching porn if he supposedly likes you?
This guy is no good for you at all if he's making you worry about yourself like this. Please get rid of him, because he'll only hurt you.
You're not the one who has to change. Good luck. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2009): hey... first of all no i dont think you need to alter your image just to please a guy!
your goal should be to stay healthy.... not skinny!
as for your boyfriend... i think he is being an ass... may be you should save a a pic of some hunk on your cell and tell him how sexy you find him! may be then he'll get the idea.
and to be quite honest your best freind is pretty lousy.. she should be encouraging you to stay healthy... not become some big boobed bimbo!
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