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writes:Hey, Im 14 and I really like this guy who's a year older than me. He went out with this girl a month or two ago but he really liked me and we were going to organise it so we could see each other without her knowing. Please don't tell me that was wrong, i made up my mind. However, before we really sorted it, they broke up because she was too stressed [doctor's orders, not her choice.]He told me that he was okay with the break-up because he had me. We were seeing each other a bit but he went off me after a while and they got back together when she got better. I really like him and I want him to like me. Do you think I should wait for him? Or if I get him to like me could I convince him that we could cheat again? What would you do?
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reader, maxsteel86 +, writes (11 March 2007):
 Well since you asked what I would do, I wouldn't cheat. Its totally evil (in the wrong way, not in the cool way), really low and lacking in decency to the max (and a whole bunch of crap that I dont wanna get into now). You're almost at the age where being the other woman seriously has consequences. Get out of this situation fast. The guy's just getting one hell of an ego trip to be wanted by more than one girl at a time, he doesn't really care for you. If he did, would he want to cheat, or rather be with you and no one else?
But if you really dont mind which, I'd say wait for them to break up first and dont encourage it. The choices you make now will help define you as a person later in life. Make the right choices
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reader, AskEve +, writes (11 March 2007):
 Why would you want to be with a guy who cheats on his girlfriend? If he cheats on her, do you think he'll be faithful to you? Would you not prefer to have a guy that likes you and you alone? Have a bit of respect for yourself and stop throwing yourself at his feet! He was only using you then dumped you when he felt like it... and you want to go back with someone like that???
Think of his girlfriend! Would you like what you want to do done to you? (someone cheat with YOUR boyfriend without you knowing?) You reap what you sow you know!
Eve
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reader, aunty t  +, writes (10 March 2007):
 You obviously really like this guy and would do anything to get him to like you back. But Im afraid life isnt that kind. Everything seems to be on his terms. He was prepared to cheat on his girlfriend which shows he has very little respect for her. I wouldnt waste my time on him. I can see that you are blinded by your feelings for him but the two of you cheating behind her back is very wrong. You know its wrong and it doesnt bother you. How would you like to be in her position I dont think you would like to be treated like this. Let him get on with his relationship and try and find someone who you can have all to yourself
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