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30-35,
*.love.you
writes:Hello, I am 15 and am in a relationship with a boy I trust completely.No, I'm not going to ask if sex is okay because it's only been a month! And I am saving myself for a more apropriate age.*My question is; have I hurt his feelings?/would this hurt your feelings?*The other day I went round his house and we were getting along great, his mom is awesome and so is her boyfriend - she asked us to make tea so we went into the kitchen.As I went into the garage to let out his dog I felt him behind me so I turned and hugged him, he laughed and pushed my playfully back and kissed me. His hands were roaming and I didn't mind that until he reached my stomach - I'm conscious about my stomach as it isn't very flat OR small so I moved his hand away.He seemed to find that alright and then started to kiss me, the only problem is his kissing is DIRE! So I stopped kissing him and managed to subtly wipe my mouth (yep, it's THAT bad). He tried to kiss me again but I moved my head and it continued like that for the rest of the day with two exceptions (we're talking after 1,001 tries on his part) he's never been a good kisser but it's getting worse!I've given him a double-rejection in the space of a few hours, I can't help but know that that would is enough reason to be upset but with the hints of his lack of 'xx' on the end of text messages AND when I asked him if he was free next week he said he 'wasn't sure'.From how you can see he's responded to me being normal, and the story of what happened - would you be offended and do you think I've offended him?Hopefully you don't mind how long it is, and I would appreciate some male opinions.Regards,Jade.
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reader, i.love.you +, writes (3 August 2010):
i.love.you is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the advice, I guess it sounds reasonable to 'give him lessons' and it would be a useful thing to work on our comunication problems ..
I didn't think that they took rejection that bad, but it seems that he has.
Thank you.
Regards,
Jade.
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (3 August 2010):
 Men, like most domesticated animals, can be trained how to do new tricks, including kissing well. Avoiding his kisses won't make him better at it. Teach him. Offer constructive criticism (note "constructive" does not mean just telling him that he's doing a poor job) and give him positive feedback when he kisses well. Help him improve.
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reader, Angelicc +, writes (3 August 2010):
 With boys its our job as girlfriends to teach them how to kiss with out them know it. Basically you take control of the kiss.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 August 2010):
It's possible. Try talking to him about it. Just say that you've noticed he's a little distant, and you're a bit worried. A man doesn't take rejection from his girlfriend all that well, especially twice. He may be hurt.
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