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writes:Hi Cupid,My question is that i recently met a girl on a dating site we have had a good time together, she lives about 2hrs from me,we have seen each other 3 time and I've been making the drive to see her as she is recovering from a broken leg. We have been talking to each other every day now for about 2 1/2 months.. i've sent her flowers and bought her dinner and lunch each time i've seen her. i really like this girl and i've asked her what she wants and she told me she doesn't want a boyfriend right now but said "we are friends that have sex".I've also discovered that she is still on the dating site every day and when i asked her about it she told me she only go's on there once a week. What i'm wondering is if you could give me some advice on how to make her mine :)Thanx looking forward to your reply
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questioni was gunna say i think its aussie chicks..
yea well il see if i do drive there but if things get too long (if ya know wat i mean then i mite take that drive)
im not sure wat to do.. maybe il just go back to concerntrating on work n making some money..
send some american girls up here then..
oh btw they say were down under but i reccon were on top :P
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (24 October 2010):
 Maybe it's just Aussie girls in general my dear. Don't become like the rest of the males out there and use women for sex. There's already enough of those out there, in fact too many. Unless she is phenomenal in the sack, it's not worth it to drive 2 hours for sex. Let it go, I stated that in my post. She's using you, she is not worth that 2 hour drive.
Don't give up hope, that good girl who will appreciate those flowers, dinner, and vacation time spent with them is out there. Trust me there are a lot of good girls out there. Maybe you should consider moving to America, American women love Aussies!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi im not sure if u got my reply, before as i cant see it..
thanx for ur advise.. she was ment to come up here this weekend and wen the weekend came she just did wat ever she was doing n acted like it wasnt even spoken about that she was coming here.. wen i questioned her about it she kinda just ignored me.. so i pretty much told her wat u said and that il just go there have sex with her n im not going out of my way to buy her flowers or dinner n wont be taking days off work to see her n if i have a day off i may go see her. i told her she can sleep n talk to who ever she wants n dont feed me any bullshit about how she likes me n she wants to come see me.. her reply was "fine"
iv have found i get this kind of attiude alot with girls i date.. dus noone believe in romance anymore??
or is it a good way to try n wrap someone around ur finger..
anyway im sick of the games i may just go to treating women in the same way as iv been treated n use them for sex.. thanx again have a great day :)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (20 October 2010):
There's no love potion that you can whip up to make her fall in love with you. Sorry.
It's interesting that she's the one who wants a no strings attached arrangement. Usually it's the other way around. Nearly impossible to take a FWB and turn it into a relationship. Sex alone doesn't equal a relationship. If she can use you just for sex and nothing more, there's no emotional feeling on her part at all. And by her navigating the dating site still, means she's keeping her options open and looking for her next FWB. I will say you may have a slim to none chance of her eventually developing feelings for you, because often women aren't cut out for FWBs we let our emotions get the best of us. However, I'm getting this isn't the case for her, she can keep her emotions if she has any, in check.
Honestly, if I were you I'd let it be and cut off this no strings attached deal. It's not working for you, you're starting to develop feelings for her when she doesn't reciprocate...you're not going to get what you want from her, and will continue with false hope.
I know you don't agree with me, so go ahead and try to woo her. Let her know you want more than friends with benefits that you want an actual relationship..Maybe what you need is for her to tell you "No it's not going to happen" in order for you to understand.
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