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writes:Today my girlfriend(call her jessica) went out with her friend (call her sara).I didnt mind that i wasnt going because it was just her and her really close friend so i am fine with just the two of them. So im talking to her on msn and i find out that other friends(call them john and jason) meet up with her by just texting and asking her. So jessica says yes and the two guys meet up with the girls,this is where i get annoyed. Later on jessica finds out that sara knew that john was going to meet up with them but never told her that this was going to happen. This isnt the first time that it was supposed to be just jessica and sara then john meeting up 'unexpectantly'. I think that john doesnt like me and doesnt want me to see jessica as much as i can. If he had known that he was going to meet up with them then i could have came along aswel to see jessica. As i said things like this have happened before so i was just wondering what do you aunts think is going on.John and jessica used to be really close aswel but their friendship isnt what it used to be since i came along but they are still close and talk to each other everyday either by text or msn so i dont know why he could be jealous of me. Jessica and i have been going for 7 months now and we love each other so much. From the start john has tried to break jessica and i up but he was the one that brought us together.Do you think he is jealous of mine and jessica`s relationship and wishes he had never let me and jessica meet?btw jason is johns friend but he has nothing to do with it
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 This sounds like the "over-protective brother/friend syndrome".
You mentioned that John and Jessica were really close before and were like best-friends. Some friends get so well along that they consider each other like family, even when they don't say it outloud.
Now John may not really hate you, but he may just not like seeing his friend Jessica growing up and slipping away. He's afraid that she may make a bad decision, and he may sometimes think delusional bad thoughts about you. He's probably just trying to look out for her and is taking the protective stance a brother would.
This happened to me (And I bet to many people who have siblings). When my boyfriend came into my life, my brother didn't really like him and I asked him why and he himself didn't know why. He kept his distance with him and whenever I was with him, my brother would try to keep an eye on us. It took him a year and 1/2 to get used to him seeing him around but I guess he just saw he would not do me any harm. I bet this is what John may be experiencing and he may not be aware of what he's doing.
Now I just suggest you to give him the time to get accostumed to you. He's just looking out for his friend and if you prove him, over the time, that you won't hurt her, then he will probably be more friendly.
Good luck and just give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionjohn is gay btw forgot that part lol
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