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writes: hi so went out with this boy we spent so much time together like 24/7 that we started arguing..i said thing that i shouldnt and mugged him off..so we broke up..he wouldnt go anywhere i was and would stare at me and tell people he hated me..we said we loved eachother after 2 weeks..i still think of him and he has a new gf..does he still think of me?? he told my friend i wasnt like other girls and he fell for me straight away..thanks
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reader, Fiona xxx  +, writes (22 July 2008):
 Some people are quite full on in a relationship and it can be nice to be on the receiving end of such attention. It is a nice compliment if you are told you are so special too.
My mother would have said about getting too serious too soon to means having sex straight away. However you can be too serious in way of constant compliments and telling eachothers life story too soon and spending so much time together. You can still be hurt without having sex, so not sure if this is the case or not, but you see where I am coming from.
If you were sleeping together it's likely that it was lust not love so soon. Or some lads say they love you thinking you will have sex with them. I used to find that a turn-off and didn't fall for it.
However it causes hurt when it ends, especially so soon. It is bizarre how things were so full on, and then what couldn't have been much has ended it.
I have been in various relationships of different lengths and am now married. Believe me you are not in love after two weeks. You might be in love with the idea of being in love, or fancy eachother, or fond of each-other etc. It could be lust, or some lads say they love you thinking you will have sex with them.
I used to make a rule of seing a boyfriend twice a week, say on a Wednesday and a Saturday night for example. Or just at the weekends with a sleepover whatever, but not all the time. We would phone too. That way it wouldn't be too full on too soon, and you don't wear a relationship out.
It could be his way and he is always full-on. If he really is fond of you after say 2 weeks you would be back together after some space.
Don't want to sound bossy but I expect you will learn from this not to get too emotionally close too soon and so on. You don't need all this hasstle. First it's serious then he doesn't want to know you etc. It is possible he still thinks of you, and you no doubt hold a special place in his heart, but if he is with somebody else he might have moved on.
So take something from this and move on too and don't be hurt and feel too bad.
Good luck.
from Fiona.
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