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writes:My boyfriend of 3 months just broke up with me. I am seriously heartbroken because I fell hard for this guy. In the first month and a half things were wonderful. We had sex often and loved being together. Then one time when we were having sex he stopped in the middle of everything and said I can't do this anymore. He said that it wasn't me but him and he felt like we weren't insync with eachother. I didn't understand what was wrong. And ever since that moment he distanced himself a little more and then we had sex less and less. We always had a good time hanging out and talking but the affection lacked too. When he broke it off with me the other night he said we were in different places and I needed someone to put me on a pedastool and give me more attention. He still wants to be friends too. I don't understand how things could be going so good and then change dramatically. I would do anything for him. I think some where along the lines his heart backed away from me. Does anyone understand what could have happened to my bf and why he changed all of a sudden? Do you think I may have a chance to get him back if we just stay friends for a while first?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (13 September 2010):
It's just the way the human mind words. People have to take time getting to know each other, usually a few months. At about 3 months, a man will know whether he wants to make a woman his girlfriend (unless he has issues of his own). As it is, your guy decided he was not the guy for you and ended it. He took some time, and made his decision. I think the best thing you can now do is move on. And I don't think he will suddenly have another change of heart if you remain friends over time. Men don't work that way. We either want someone or we don't. On this occasion, he's decided the relationship is not working and wants to move. You need to move on to. Time won't change what he feels.
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