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writes:I met this guy on the internet dating site. He likes me and want to know me in a better way. Right now we are in a long distance relationship. He has been very free and open to me about the fact that he has had sex with girls in the pasts. And he finds me hot .he claims to say I really try my best to be a good guy but I find it difficult as I like f***ing girls. yuo have to accept me the way I am. he asks me to understand him well.i like having fun with him. so he finds me really hot , i like his body too as its really appealing in my eyes and sexy.The other day my girlfriend spoke to him on the net.NOW he doesnt know she is my friends. she wanted to find out if he is a player, so she began flirting with him. Asking him are you single . he says m committed I have a girlfriend. simultaneously at that time I was talking to him too. my friend really liked that he admitted m his girlfriend. but my friend teased him saying " why don't you leave her jut f*** her and be with me ". he says m talking to her right now. I like her, I can't do that, my feelings don't let me leave her. I like her now but once we meet we might love each other. my friend again teased him saying ...i wish you guys break up.he gets angry and tell her to buzz of and says m talking to my girlfriend don't disturb me. i was very happy to find out he did really accept me as his gf.but what confuses me is : why does he love sex and we have had fights on the fact that I can't have sex before marriage. he understands me but get a little upset. I m confused a lot.he gives me my space and respects me. but somewhere I feel empty. IS it he really wants to be a good guy or he is a player.guys can you help me
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 September 2010): thank you very much for your reply. Am really in a confusing situation.nevertheless thank you for guiding me and freeing me from this tension.
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 He sounds like a genuinely good guy that just has a bit of a long past as far as sex goes. And it sounds like he legitimately likes you and is faithful to you.
I wouldn't test a guy like that though, if he found out that you had your friend hitting on him and telling him to dump you as a test, he might feel hurt or upset or like you didn't trust him.
But it does sound like he really likes you.
As for sex. All men love sex and want it. That doesn't mean he's necessarily a player that's going to screw everything he sees, but since he's had it before and he's attracted to you and with you, he's obviously going to want to have sex with you. Don't let him pressure you into sex if you're not ready for it or want to wait, but at the same time, understand that everyone has different needs whether it's emotional needs or physical needs.
Just make it clear to him that you don't want sex just yet and you're not ready for it.
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