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writes:A guy I was seeing quite often broke things off with me for no other reason than he did not want a relationship. So for the past 3 months now all I've been is a drunken 3 in the morning phone call to which I always usually go round to his apartment.(I may as well get mine too!!) After this he never talks to me and it is ALWAYS me who makes the effort to get in touch with him.However, the past two times he has called me asking me to come round I've said no for genuine reasons and now he talks to me first online or texts me first when it is usually me who has to make the first move.Do you think maybe he likes the chase and that if I play hard to get it may interest him more?? Guys are so confusing. All answers will be appreciated, particularly those off guys. thanks :) x
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (7 October 2008):
 After I posted to this question the term came to my mind, Holla Back Girl. He wants you when it's convienent to him and he thinks he can just call you up and you'll come running. Which is exactally what you did! Tell him you are not his Holla Back Girl, either he's in it for the long haul or you are out of it! No one deserves to be treated like a second class person, either he can treat you the way he should at all times or TREAT him to a GOODBYE!!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): VALUE and RESPECT yourself. DON't let this guy or any other guy USE you like this. You deserve better. Don't go to his apartment at night. Who does he think he is, and where is his respect for you? Show some self respect and behave with DIGNITY and you will attract decent guys and even the "jerks" will know to treat you with respect.
GOOD LUCK
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2008): Two words spring to mind "booty call". I suspect if he is texting and communicating with you now it is because you have shown you are okay with being his 3 am call. You have not asked for anything and he has made it plain that he is in it for sex only. Therefore, he might seem more comfortable with you now because there is no hassle or emotional drama.
You on the other hand have feelings. Sorry dear, but this is always a recipe for heartbreak.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (6 October 2008):
Some guys are wonderful! They can be smart,suave and kind. They can even be generous,compassionate and understanding. These guys can have many different qualities which make them GREAT! Thank God for the Good Guys....who are TRUE MEN!
HOWEVER..............................................
Some guys do like the chase. Some guys are confusing. Some guys are players. The only way to not get played is to remove yourself from the game!
DON'T PLAY HARD TO GET BE HARD TO GET!
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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