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writes:There's this guy I like but don't talk to!!! I know weird!! Anyways this weekend at the fair my bffl asked him if he liked alison (name changed) he said alison who? My friend told him and he said umm i dont know her..... Then she refreshed his memory and he's like ohh ya I know her... No I dont like her!!! I wasn't there but I wish I was cuz then I could tell if he was telling the truth by his facial expression! But ya im really depressed cuz I really like him. What should I do? Do you think he could have only said no because his friends were there????? I am soo sad please I need some advice!!!:'(
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reader, Emjo  +, writes (23 June 2009):
 Firstly, if you dont know him how do you know you like him?
Thats like saying i like curry but never having tasted it... without first hand experience you have no idea. Just because you saw him do something nice or you've heard nice things about him it doesnt mean he's as nice as you think.
Secondly, he must be aware of your lack of interaction as he didnt know who you were without description... Meaning how can he like you if he doesnt even know you by name?
Maybe try breaking it down like this for yourself, look at things in a realistic manner before deciding you "like" someone, also the term like can have a variety of meanings just like the word love... you need to decide how much you like this person... im sure that when you really think about it, or maybe look back on it in retrospect in a few years you may conclude that you didnt like him all that much in comparison to other relationships you've been in and such, you know...
Personaly i wouldnt get too hung up on it, im sure he didnt mean any offence as he was unaware that you liked him right and may i also point out that you are still or at least you still sound very young as does he by the entire concept that he may disguise his feelong because of his friends and the fact that you are too scared to talk to him.. maybe work up the confidence to talk to him yourself in future? then he can get to like you or you can decide hes not very nice or whatever... We cant just expect things to happen, relationships take work, even friendships.
Also i'd bare in mind that when you do, if you do decide to go over and talk to him now he may be aware that you like him because of the very unsubtle act of your friend so you may have jepordised all chances with him,
Either way i'd still give it a go, chat to him as a FRIEND, nothing more as of yet and see how things progress,
best of luck to you,
Love em.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 June 2009): I hate to be negative, but Im fairly certain he meant what he said. If you havent talked to him, and havent really interacted, there isnt a way he could really like you right?
I used to do this a lot when I was younger, I would like boys who I didnt really know. I now realize that was silly of me. You cant like someone you dont know. Try and talk to him, be friends with him before you become anything more.
Good luck!
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