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writes:So me and this guy have been seeing each other for almost 2 months now, like we are basically together but just without the official title. Like we act like we are together, just basically how everything between us is how it would be if we were really boyfriend/girlfriend. Im just wondering whats making it so were not officially together? He says hes crazy about me, he seriously does so much for me, more than any guy ever has and he wants to see me everyday so im just kinda confused. We've semi talked about stuff(like being together) but it was just vague. What Im worried about is we have sex a lot. We hang out everyday and we probably have sex like 3 or 4 times a day every single day. I dont know this is a lot for me, but I just like him so much that I enjoy having sex with him you know? I am concerned that maybe having sex this much might kind of ruin it for him. I dont know? Do you think having sex so much can make him loose interest in relationship? Help!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2011): If someone likes you, really likes you, 20 minutes is nothing every day, don't think so poorly of yourself.
Obviously you think he is a catch, and it sounds like he feels the same way about you.
Let go of the fear, and don't be afraid to speak your mind, and if he really is all that, and you are good to him, he will be good to you, and it will blossom into love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 September 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks guys! I think I mightve left some things out. He's not just some I have sex with, we tell each other everything to, we talk all day every single day if were not together were talking on the phone or what not. He says goodnight and goodmorning everyday.. He doesn't just say he likes me but he shows it greatly through his actions like he seriously does everything for me, all his his friends thinks he's whipped lol. But we are really close and have a good rlationship which is why I'm confused. I do kind of see why he may not want to be with me for example like I don't drive and he drives like 20 mins out of his way everyday to see me so I could see how that would annoy him but I feel like if you really like some and want to be with them it'd be no matter what. And as far as the sex lol it's not constantly 3 times a day but it's at least once a week it's just on the weekends and somedays it's a lot haha but I don't want to have to bring this up, I want him to.
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reader, eek  +, writes (21 September 2011):
 if your both happy and having fun then keep going. You can never have too much sex :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): He doesn't need to be you BF to sleep with you, so why would he want to make things official?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): He says he is crazy about you?
You have sex every single day, 3 or 4 times?
He wants to see you every day?
Sounds like an ideal situation to me....
Have you told him you love him?
Has he told you that he loves you?
If you do, the tell him, and if he's just using you then it will become apparent rather quickly. Otherwise, you two just might be a couple for good.
Sex 3-4 times every single day? Don't you guys have jobs?
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (20 September 2011):
 THERE IS NO SUCH THING as TOO much sex! It's like chocolate and money you can not get enough so don't stress over it. He's just kinda on the slow side (apparently comitment scares the ___ outa him?)
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reader, olderthandirt +, writes (20 September 2011):
THERE IS NO SUCH THING as TOO much sex! It's like chocolate and money you can not get enough so don't stress over it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2011): Well if you're not together yet have you asked him why?
Ofcourse you care about him & by the looks of it he has interest in you, but there must be a reason why he doens't want to be together
To be honest, having sex with him so often might make him think you're just a booty call so maybe low it down a bit until you're actually together
It's nice that you're happy & you want to have sex with him, but then maybe it might make you come off as a friend with benefits & if you like this guy you down want that
I hope I helped (: x
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reader, Koala Bear +, writes (20 September 2011):
 In this situation, YES. He's doesn't really need a relationship status with you because he can "have his cake and eat it too" as things are. He's having the best time of his life right now(I'm sure you are too, physically). But for a relationship to progress it can't purely be based on sex. I'm sure most guys would want to see you everyday if he knew that he was having sex at least 3 times that day. This is an unfortunate situation, you are growing more and more attached to this guy by the second(rather with each climax). He's not connecting with you in a beneficial way. Does he know when your birthday is, what your favorite things to do are, where you grew up? Do you know these things about him? You have crossed the intimacy barrier with him and that does make things more difficult to correct. Definitely slow things down. If you want a relationship out of this then you have to set boundaries and make sure your needs are met too.
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