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writes:Basically I have fallen for a guy and well he says he likes me an we've spent time together, call and text each other every day without fail etcAnyway to the point, whenever i bring up the subject of us actually getting together properly he just says that he has come out of a long relationship and he's not sure...I dunno what to do because i really like him, i dont want to sound like im tryin to force him to be with me but sometimes i get mixed feelings from him like one minute he says he really misses me and wants to spend time with me, but then he is always busy, i know him being busy cant be helped cuz i work with him and i know he works a lot. Its just frustrating because i wanna be with him i just dont know what im supposed to do...And sometimes i dont know whether he actually likes me or if he's just seeing me because he has no1 else =[What do u guys think?Think maybe a relationship might come at the end?Wasting my time?I dont know but answers would be appreciatedThanks x
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reader, karinana  +, writes (8 May 2007):
 my boyfriend that i am with now was in a six year relationship before me. the last two years of it were hell, he said. they broke up six months before we started dating. and even then, he was just recovering. we were together for a month before he left for a five month trip (that he is still on.) and we are both happy for the five month trip because it will give him time to fully recover and find himself again. believe me, you want him to fully recover or else your relationship is going to have a lot of "her" in it. so, my advice is still the same. give him time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhis last relationship ended about a month an a half ago and he was with her for 4 years, but always told me that they never got on well at all, he doesnt even seem that effected by it to be honest but i dont know, maybe he says things like that to make himself better, all i know is that he shows an interest in me, has told me he likes me and we've gone out etc a couple of times but he doesnt say how he feels really and i just feel like im trying to be with him and that maybe it wont happen, i know im getting hurt at the minute because i wanna be with him but nothing is developing between us
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2007): how long ago was the last breakup?
that will tell alot about him.
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reader, karinana +, writes (7 May 2007):
When did his last relationship end and how long was it for? It is better to take your time. You do not want to be a rebound. Allow him to find himself first before he rushes into a new relationship. In the end, you will probably end up hurt if things happen to quick and he hasn't fully recovered from his last saga. People move on from things very differently, and there is no rule as to how long it takes to recover from the ending of a relationship.
But you should not give up. Be supportive and loving. When he is ready, he will let you know.
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