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*helseaboy25
writes:I'm not sure whether I like this girl. If you haven't read my last "question" I will give you a quick overview. She is an actress, very succefull in the UK when she was 18, most 16-25 year olds will know who she is. I recently met up with her and we got incredibly drunk with each other. It is clear things have not gone the way she wanted out of her career, she spent a year in LA trying to progress, but could only get modelling jobs, so returned to the UK to study and then dropped out, now she is trying to be a singer. She is very mental, keeps referring to "the biz" and how she has had it so hard- a photographer tried to force himself on her. It is clear she has put up a huge brick wall, to protect her from the negativity I'm sure she got whilst she was out there. Physically, i am attracted to her, she is stunning, but I have not met anyone with such low self esteem before. For some reason she has no friends now, although when I knew her when we were younger she was extremely popular and confident. I want to build up her confidence, but I am scared that if it doesnt go well I will make her worse. I'm also worried that she could become stalkerish, when I was with her, I gave her my watch to try on, I forgot that she had it when we parted ways. I called her after work the next day and she said that she was out to dinner and that she would drop it off on her way home. When she came by, I saw her from outside my window take the watch of her wrist (she had been wearing it out to dinner!) and then she kept asking me what I was doing that night and if she could come.I'm really at a loss, do you guys think a constructive relationship can be built around such a mess. My friends are pushing me to date her, as they all think she is stunning, which is making my choice harder!
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (7 October 2010):
 There is not really much of a mess here. It is nothing simple discussion cannot fix. Talk to her and tell her how you feel about the way things are going.
Do you want to date her? Perhaps you could help her achieve a more confident state of mind, as a friend or as a boyfriend, it's up to you. Nothing is impossible, you need to tell her what you are comfortable with and begin 'construction' of a better relationship.
I hope that helps.
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