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writes:I have a lot of problems so I came back to this site. I won't tell you who I used to be but I will tell u my problem. My mother acts very rude to me and my sister, who is 11. She yells and cusses at us when we do even the slightest thing wrong. Every time she yells, I get mixed up feelings. I feel angry at her then I feel sad and then I just smolder out till I even cry sometimes. I want to tell her off but I'm so scared of what she will say or do. I have even thought of scenes where it goes my way. She says she is so strict because her mother never really cared. I think it will start a chain reaction of me not being strict and my children be strict. I don't know what to do about her. Help!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2010): You need to talk to your mother and let her know how she is making you feel. You should tell her on a day when you are both calm and have not been rowing.
Try to stick to telling her how the yelling makes you feel rather than saying that you don't like her behaviour.
If you think that doing this would end up in more shouting maybe you could write her a letter instead. Again, don't tell her she is in the wrong, but instead on how the yelling makes you feel.
You could write along the lines of 'I don't like it when we shout because it makes me feel upset and anxious'. Tell her you love her.
Good luck, hope it works out
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