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writes:My wife and I had a two month break a few years ago before we got married. During this time she hooked up with another dude. I always assumed he may have been bigger than me or better in bed. Well I overheard my wife tell someone " I've only had two men, but I'm not with the bigger one". So I get my confirmation that he was larger. I ask her about him, and the way she said "you don't want to know" makes me think he has a monster cock! I have a mental complex over this, because I know I'm small, I'm only 5" long with 5" girth, and this guy must be more than a little larger, it must be massive!I discover exercises to grow bigger, witch do work and grew about 1/2". My wife notices and complains about it, so I tell her about my exercises. She freaks out and demands I stop right away! Not the reaction I was expecting, I thought women liked big dicks. So are there other women that would rather have my 5" cock vs. a big one? I'm wondering if she is sincere or trying to make me feel good? Although I do think if she was just worried about my feelings, she would of lied about his cock and said it was small! I also can't stop wondering exactly how big it is if ' I don't want to know'? I wonder if she missed it, or if she is missing something I can't give her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): Well, it depends but most women love to have a big one. I rather have a big a and long one, and I can use more or less of it, it's up to my liking. If you think you are small then make up for it by giving her more oral sex. enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2012): Thank you all for your responses. They helped a great deal. We had a long talk about this, where she constantly reassured me she wants me just the way I am. At first I thought she was just trying to make me feel better, but after a lot of discussing and experimenting I know she is sincere. Now that I have come to terms with what I have, and knowing she really wants it, we are having the best sex ever.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): To add to my postAs well when she told me it was good, he couldn't keep it up. I think I'm remembering then, and now paying for the TMI on her part then.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): OP hereLike I said, the story changed then from now. When we were getting back together I asked her what was the deal with them, she said well the sex is good, I asked if he was better she said, but I love you. Now she says she wasn't into it, it made her sick, and it hurt. That makes me wonder what story is true, and if it was amazing for her does she miss it. Do I measure up, or am I not giving her what she wants. I want her to feel good like she makes me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): Could it be she actually loves you just the way you are???
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2012): OP here
Thank you for your responses so far!
One thing i don't get is why she got so upset about me getting bigger, if this dude was that big, I could grow a little bit?
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (26 August 2012):
 What she said when you were apart was probably shit talk to make you jealous. You can't take too much of that to heart. And I will be 100% honest with you, I do not like a bigger penis, it hurts like hell. A small girl can't take too much. Knowing what you are doing during sex and focusing on her is far more important.
And now after saying she was in pain during sex with him that explains the facial expression she has when saying "you don't want to know". It is obviously something she doesn't like to relive, lol. I know my husband made the same expression when talking about an ex's body type not being right for him. I have a small chest and I had asked if he ever dated someone much bigger than I am. He had the same type of unpleasant reaction towards his ex with large boobs. Yet most men love big boobs right? It's what we believe because of our insecurities. It's hard to tell yourself someone is happy with your body when it seems like you see every where that what they prefer is something other than what you are. But you have to realize everyone is different and prefer different things.
Anyhow I can understand to a degree getting upset thinking about her having sex with him. It's never a pleasant thought. But all the women I have talked to and known care far less about size than you realize. If you had tiny penis syndrome of 2in then I would get the worries, but you are absolutely normal. Normal erect penis size is 5-6in. Every guy I have dated was in that range with the exception of one who was bigger and he was far and away the worst of the 4. Take care of her in the foreplay department and make sex amazing she won't ever wish she had a larger guy. Trust me.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 August 2012):
 OP - UNDERSTAND that women have no NEED for a long slong. The longer a penis is doesn't equate to better and the internal walls of the vagina itself do not have a great supply of nerve endings, thus are not very sensitive to touch. Penetration is RARELY how women achieve orgasms.
Also, I can tell you from experience, having someone actually hit your uterus is rather unpleasant.
Size REALLY doesn't matter to MOST women. As long as they guy with *whatever size stick* knows how to please her. "Knows how to turn her of, TAKES the time to get her warmed up, and if he hits climax first, that he actually TAKES the time to get her off too.
Also, I have NEVER met a woman among my friends who whipped out a ruler and measured the guy they were with. Pretty SURE that a guy who knows what he is doing... seems overall a better sexual partner.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2012): OP again:
The other thing I'm trying to figure out is why she wouldn't want me to grow. She does tell me I'm thick, and I like hearing that, but I do feel short. As well, I know no good ever comes from asking about the past, but I'm wondering if I should ask her again now that I've got it in my head that this guy is John Holmes' stunt cock, maybe I can deal with the truth more than what I have in my head. When she was still mad at me before we got back together she said sex with him was amazing, now years later she said it hurt and she didn't enjoy it. I know in the grand scheme of things 'I won' she is with me and I know she loves me dearly. I just don't know why the thought of her getting rammed by a giant cock plays in my head. Perhaps she really didn't like it, and he wasn't that much bigger. Could that be the reason she dosn't want me to have a bigger dick? From what she says to me I'm the only one that isn't happy. I'm just wondering if she means that, or dosn't want to hurt me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2012): I am the OP:
I probably am blowing it out of proportions. It's just the way she said I don't want to know and the look on her face when she said it. I'm also trying to come to terms that she was with this dude. I know we were seperated, but sometimes I have a hard time accepting that. It may have been 6-7, but the way she said it made me visualize 10+! The one thing I'm thankful for is she said Sleeping with this guy is what made her miss me and want to come back. Bittersweet.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (25 August 2012):
Listen to Karlos. All women are different. But I will add to that, what women do NOT like is a man who is very insecure and worries so much about penis size. She is with you, not Mr. Big Dick, if she wanted him she would be with him. And she says "you don't want to know" because most men don't... Men don't want to know another man's penis size if that man has been with his woman. You speculate that the other man is so huge when you have no idea and your insecurity has made you blow things out of proportion. Step back and calm down, you are normal and she is happy with you.
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reader, Atsweet1 +, writes (25 August 2012):
 Most like small it fits better. Large is to much pain especially if he wants to be rough and deep they say the deeper the seed goes it makes boys explains why I have girls. Lol you are over reacting Im sure. If she didn't say its to small don't worry. I liked a small guy before but Im pretty sure he sleeps around alot. He was one of my best man lovers and fineness to sexy so I know others wanted some of him too. Small or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2012): The closest to an accurate and honest answer I can give to this question is, it all depends on the woman. Some prefer big, and others prefer smaller ones.
The way I see it, as long as the person can get the job done effectively with it, that's all that matters.
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