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writes:My question today is pretty straightfoward:Many girls I have met tell me that, "Women know when a man likes them in a romantic way."I have asked, "Really? How do they know?""We just know," is the simple reply.Is this true? If this is true, then why all the miscommunication about whether someone is a friend or a boyfriend or a girlfriend? Women: do you know when a guy has a crush on you or likes you in a romantic way?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (11 January 2011):
 The women who told you that they "just know" when a man likes a woman are right. Women see through us and they know even if we try to hide it.
Notice that they didn't tell you how they know. But they sure do.
And, let me give you a piece of logic that is not male's logic but is very logical. You complain that
"If this is true, then why all the miscommunication about whether someone is a friend or a boyfriend or a girlfriend?"
This is very simple. First things first: KNOWING that someone loves her does not mean she will ACKNOWLEDGE that fact. Particularly if the woman in question does not love the guy. There is no confusion here. You just started from the wrong premise: you think that knowing that someone loves you necessarily means you will be very straightforward about it. The answer is a clear "no".
Maybe you are confused whether you are a girl's friend or boyfriend, but most of the time (as in 90%) women know very well whether a man is a friend to them, or not.
What happened to you, only you know. I speculate that you liked someone, this girl sort of gave some signs that she liked you - or you took those signs to mean she liked you - or she used you - and now she is saying that you're a friend. It is irrelevant whether you are right that she was hitting on you or not. NOW she is saying that she doesn't want you.
When you love someone and you don't want to face that fact that this someone is not into you, it is only natural to try to see things the way you'd like them to be. That is when you feel confused, because some part of you sort of hints that, hey, maybe you're stretching the meaning of things. And the woman in question might also drop a few hints that are very clear to her (and other women) but, unfortunately, are not clear for men. Like "Gee, I can't see you this week because I have so many meetings". You want to be reasonable and think "Wow, my girl is such a smart little babe that she is in high demand at her job. I won't be a bastard or a pain in the ass and will let her focus on her meetings. Wow, is she getting places...Am I proud of her." After a week, you call her because you want to know what happened. And she is pissed off that you didn't take the hint.
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reader, moon river  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 i think it depends. If you mean romantic as in more than physical then no i don't personally think you can tell. Unless you personally are very expressive then i have no idea what they're on about xxx
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 January 2011):
 Well it really depends on the guy himself some men are really forward and make it obvious that they like you but then again some men are quite shy and they dont no how to flirt or show that they are interested and this is where the confusion lies.
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