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writes:I'm a Bangladeshi girl and I've always been attracted to White men. But the White guys I've met online are attracted to me only until they find out my nationality. Some even straight off told me, they thought I was a Latina (like..?!!) I've no experience with White men outside the virtual world. My question to white men, do you find "Bangladeshis" unattractive. If so, why? Or is it just my luck that I've only met "racist" guys.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (3 September 2020):
Regarding your reply: I can only speak as an American, living in a culturally diverse area. There aren't a lot of Bangladeshi women around, so most men here probably aren't even sure where your country is.
Although there are plenty of Indian women, and I imagine most men are familiar with them. It's possible that they assume you're similar to that, and one of the things about a lot of Indian people is that superficially they seem culturally pretty different than most Americans. As opposed to Hispanic people (those not born in the US or those living outside of the US), who are more similar to a typical American.
So maybe they think you'd be too different than they are sometimes?
I don't know if that's true, I'm just guessing. But I think it's safe to say most people want someone who's culturally somewhat similar to themselves.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2020): Hi, I'm the author of this question. Thanks to everyone commenting here.
I think I should make some things clear. First of all, I think it's completely expected that people will feel attracted only to certain types of people based on their race and nationality. I'm like that myself. I've only been attracted to White men (I never cared about Nationality though). I do understand as well, that not all White men have the same preference. It’s completely possible that a large percentage of people. Outside my Race would find ME unattractive.
What I wanted to know is - there must be some pre-existing ideas that you guys have about Bangladeshi women (that might make them unattractive to foreigners). Cause. I never got any honest reply from any of my foreigner friends (most of them are females anyway). And the few guys who did seem interested in me suddenly started backing off from the conversation as soon as they find out my nationality (or so it felt like to me).
Again, I'm well aware that girls with Brown skin isn't all White men's cup of tea but I think that's the smallest sample size I could get as the audience of my post here.
P.S. : You guys are right about finding a date online. Thanks for the concern. You guys are kind enough to me, a stranger. But I'm not that dumb. I try my best to stay away from FAKE ones and never got into anything serious. It doesn't seem right way to find a date anyway.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (30 August 2020):
 Let's turn the question around and ask YOU, are all Bangladeshi women attracted to white men? The obvious answer is no, of course not, because people have different tastes. It has little (if anything) to do with being "racist"; it has a lot more to do with just finding different physical characteristics attractive.
Also perhaps some of the men you met felt out of their depth with your culture. Perhaps were misinformed about your culture, or felt they didn't know enough about it to get involved with you?
If you are looking to meet white men on the internet, you need to be up front about where you are from. I say this because, if these men initially believed your nationality was different to what it was, that would seem to indicate you kept your nationality hidden at first. Be up front, be honest, be proud. That way you will (hopefully) attract the right men.
As others have said, please be careful. Things are not always as they seem on the internet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2020): Please be careful when you pursue the attention of men on the internet. There are predators and people in the sex trade who abduct and sell young foreign women; and your naivete could lead you on the wrong path. I only say this because you've only interacted with men over the internet.
Of course there are white men who would find Bangladeshi women attractive, because they are very lovely women. Some won't! You're old enough to know that men can find you beautiful of any race; but not all mean you well, or will treat you with respect.
The beautiful ethnic and exotic features of women of all races attract Caucasian men; but you can't be so naive and seek men on the internet, and let them know you need their approval and validation. Bad-men are online looking for girls like that.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (30 August 2020):
I think women can be beautiful no matter where they are from. My brother dated a girl from Bangladesh who was gorgeous. I've met other attractive Bangladeshi women.
The guys you met were fetishising what they thought you were. They probably don't have a lot of exposure to Bangladeshi women while often Latinas are portrayed a certain way in the media that may make them seem desirable to some men.
My experience is that while there are some cultural similarities with women from certain areas, what makes you truly special isn't where you're from, it's who you are.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (30 August 2020):
 This is a very vague question so you aren't going to find the answer that you want. You just can't group together white men and say "Hey do you find me attractive?" Not all men think alike and putting them into a category because of race isn't going to help at all.
Some men will find you attractive whether they be white, black, brown or yellow. Some men won't. What is attractive to one person isn't attractive to another. It just depends on what that person finds appealing.
For example, I am white, live in the USA and find asian men very attractive, especially Japanese men. My husband is Japanese. I think for the most part that over here I am a minority because rarely do you see couples that the woman is white and the man is Asian. You do seem many white men with Asian women though.
I deliberately sought out Asian men to date. I like Caucasian men, I think they can be quite handsome, but there is just something about Japanese men that I like more.
Men of any race might find you attractive or maybe not. If the man wants a blue eyed blonde (like me) well then you aren't his cup of tea. Does that mean you aren't attractive? No it just means you aren't attractive to that particular man.
I will agree with what another posted said, be careful what you are looking for on the internet and keep yourself safe. People aren't always what they appear to be!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2020): As a white man, who has a lot of white family members, and who have a lot of white friends, here is my thoughts.
White men have different taste in the ladies. So some white men will be unattractive to a Bangladeshi girl while other white men are extremely attractive to Bangladeshi girls.
And with meeting men online, be careful. Nothing wrong with it (my godfather's brother met his wife on an online dating web-site). But you do have to be careful. For example, "catfishing" is an online con where someone assumes a new identity in order to seduce a stranger on the internet. There are honest people on the internet and there are creeps on the internet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2020): Take pride in who you are. You don't need validation from anybody; no man decides your worth, or can tell you whether your "race" is worthy of their appreciation. Be appreciated for who you are, the contributions you make to your community, and for the richness of your personality.
What kind of question is this???
I guarantee, if you don't adopt a more positive attitude about yourself; you will find your pride and self-esteem hitting the floor! You don't need white men, or anybody else to judge you according to your race or ethnic-features. If you ask the wrong-guy, you are opening yourself up to be emotionally-demolished! By the way...nobody can see you, sweetheart! The internet is a very dangerous place to be posing such questions!!!
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