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writes:I have been dating my boyfriend for the last 8 months, he is a very good guy, he does everything to make me happy and the sex is honestly great, we both get along really well...At the beginning of our relationship we was living 2 hours apart, and as we are always very bussy with our jobs we was only able to see each other once a week. But things changed 2 months ago, because I moved 30-40 minutes away from him, so we are now fairly close and we have been able to spend more time together, now we are seeing each other 3 times a week.At the begining of our relationship he told me that he didn't want to be in a relationship because he was afraid to lose his freedom, and I don't mean freedom of going out and messing around with other women, it is freedom of losing his individuality, he also said at that time that he didn't want to lose me because he has never felt for someone what he feels for me, keep in mind that this is not a guy that has been very lucky with women, he is not a player and he is not the kind of guy that women will think is handsome, but for me he is, and I relly love him.Over time he started changing his attitude to our relationship and now he is working more for us being successful as a couple, we normally see each other 3 times a week, because we are both very busy especially him, he works and he is going to college at the same time, I know also that he has also given up time with his friends in order to be with me (obviously he hasn't said that, but I can see it). My one problem here is that he is extremely bad at making plans, I have talk to him about this because it makes me feel bad that I am the one doing all the planning for our dates, and sometimes he tries to change it a little bit, but then he came back to his comfort zone and things get to exactly the same point. I don't know if it is worth it to continue with him or not. I am 27 years old and he is 29, I would like some masculine opinions to see if i should stay in this relationship or leave, I would like opinions to see if there is some future here or not?
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reader, chandra Mcmillan  +, writes (8 October 2008):
 I think you have answered your own question to be honest. Your boyfriend is at college and working so it is no wonder when it comes to planning he gets it wrong and changes his mind.
If your doubting the relationship then there is somthing about it you are not happy with maybe it is that you would prefer a man that takes care of you and plans evenings etc.
All I can say is if you are actually happy with him and you like to be around one another see where it does lead.
No one has a crystal ball I am afraid.
I hope I have helped.
Good Luck in your futer.
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