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writes:OP's own title.Do u think my best guy friend might be falling for me??? I've been in love with him for a while now and I want him to be mine forever. We have a odd relationship, like I can tell him anything. Things i have never shared with anyone. When we are together we have been told before that they thought we were in a relationship. Like a recently went home and I took him with me to meet my family, no other friends have ever been home with me. He even told me that if his family goes to michigan Im going too. The things we do and talk about are so intimate. Hell we do everything but have sex. I don't know if im just commiting wishful thinking but sometimes the things he does is just too close. Even though he talks about other girls/guys the way he talks about them is not the same as if he was to talk to me. Like he recently told me he's bi and i asked him why i wasnt the first to know (like he told like 4 other friends b4 me....his best friend)he said it was because he didnt want the way i looked at him to change. When i asked him how i looked at him he turned around and changed the subject.lol i know this is alot of info but im tryna give u all the evidence. there are moments when i find him touching my hair giving me looks like wanting looks lol probably wishful thinking again. what do u think.......
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2010): The only real way for you to find out is to just ask him about it. If you feel comfortable enough with each other to talk about anything, then it shouldn't be a problem, and any awkwardness should be short-lived.
A very close male friend of mine that i had a similar relationship with (we would sit and talk for hours about anything and everything, share secrets, etc), admitted his feelings for me and after a little bit of awkwardness we were able to get back to our normal, close friendship. I would just feel a little guilty sometimes because i didn't feel the same way.
Then one day something clicked in my head, and i realised i had developed feelings for him too, so we're in love and happily dating and still great friends nowadays, you never know what'll happen :)
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Hey :)
I was in almost the exact same place. One of my best guy friends sometimes acted like he definitely liked me (I was in love with him) and we talked about everything. Don't worry, other people are/have been in the same boat!
I agree with Jmtmj. We can't know for sure what he's thinking or feeling about you. It's down to you to talk to him. It does sound like a little wishful thinking is happening here which isn't surprising as you say you're in love with him. Just try not to let your love cloud your judgement of "the evidence" :)
But yes, do talk to him. Tell him everything you're thinking and feeling. Let him know you're telling him because you feel like you can talk about everything and you don't want that to change.
All we can do is wish you luck!
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Well there's no real way we can know to be honest... why don't you try talkin' to him?
When you say that you do everything but sex, do you make out or anything physical like that? Also has there been any major changes recently in how he treats you or does he act the same as he always has?
Cos if you don't and I had to give an honest opinion going by what you've written I'd say that there may be some wishful thinking on your part here. Its just that if you guys are so close and have been for a long time, if there's been nothing really stopping you guys from getting together (distance, other partners etc.) you kinda gotta ask why it hasn't happened already. The two most common reasons would be that he doesn't want to wreck the friendship or that he just doesn't like you in that way.
That's just my opinion anyways, I've been on both sides of the fence with this issue and its best to find out where you stand sooner rather than later, ya don't want to cling to false hope only to get crushed later on.
Best of luck :)
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reader, Odds +, writes (6 August 2010):
 99% of all single straight guys are open to the possibility of dating female friends of even minimal attractiveness. I don't know if this also applies to bisexual guys, but how much lower can the odds really be?
Go ahead and ask him out. Make it clear that it's a date. If he's interested, he'll respond positively; if not, things will be awkward for a week or two, but you can easily get over them.
I'd advise against leaping into his arms and kissing him, or just suddenly trying to have sex with him. This is less likely to result in romantic attraction (physical, maybe), and will be more difficult to recover from if he rejects you.
Good luck!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (6 August 2010):
 I have a guy friend like your minus the bi part and touching my hair..but weve grown into the brotherly, sisterly relationship plus Im married now. At one point I was attracted to him, and would say stuff jokingly if i dont get married by im 30 were getting married, ask him what he thought if we wouldve went out, just stuff like that. U can try that route..Or u can take the plunge and tell him ur into him. It sounds like he's interested but he doesnt want to mess up ur friendship plus the bi part throws me off bc now I think he's confused about what he wants..Guy or girl u either favor one or the other. If i were u i would tell him how u feel, whats the worst that could happen? Ud go through an awkward moment in ur friendship only to turn it around and still be the best of friends.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (6 August 2010):
 Ask him if he's sexually attracted to women, or to you specifically. I think that would tell you if you want to be in this relationship or not. He's still very young to decide if he wants a woman for life and ignore his other part of himself.
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