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writes: Okme and my ex have been broken up for over a month and we just started talkin again on friday because he was whingin to me askin why i don't talk to him anymore.. we met up friday just at a friends place and didn't say much to each other then i saw him saturday night at a friends then went back to his place with his friends also.. he was flirtin with me and kissin me even tho he is the one that said. "only couples can kiss"and so i was like what's going on? he was heaps actin like we were a couple and i told him that like i didn't wana talk anymore because it jus confuses things and yeh.. he had a sad face and said all this stuff like.. when u do wanna be friends with me let me know because i will be here when u realize we're supossed to. you only think about urself maybe i needed contact with u so i could be happy but ofcourse u destroyed that. but until that day comes i don't wana know u exist. i'm sorry for the msg' then i said we both know that we can't be friends no matta how hard we try or wat we both want. plz don't hate me jus know that it kills me to do this. then he said 'yeah yeah. i dont know wat i need all i know is wen i'm not around u and talkin to u i get depressed im goin to bed, bye'den msgd me this mornin sayin 'stop talkin to me then not talkin to me. i want to talk to you.. 'and then i picked him up from work because i was takin my friend to see her bf (who works with him) and he didn't say muhcdo u think he wants me bak? should i talk to him bout it? or just leave it n wait till he talks to me?help plz my head is a big muddle
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2008): i think he wants you back.
Talk to him, establish some ground rules... maybe he'll back off a bit.
The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else...
maybe when he has a new interest, and you do too, you can be mates again
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reader, growing  +, writes (6 May 2008):
 hi,don't get this stressed.after goin through yr question,my mind is running in two differnet directions.1may be ,he has realised yr importance in his life after you two got apart.we all know that ,we realise importance of sumthing when we loose it.so that can be the case and he wants you back but he himself is not clear in his mind and thats y avoiding the question directly.2his reaction is very normal after a breakup.this happens when you meet yr ex when you are single and the break up is recent.so may be he is not goin around with sumone rite now and tats why feeling isolated and is missing the time you two used to share.as you said that he even kisses you so that give some hints that sumwhere he is even missing on that physical touch and bcos he believe that only couples can kiss,that makes him relucatant for kissing sumone for funsake and as you were couple sometime back ,so his mind feels comfortable in doing that with you without feeling guilty.that makes him with you till he falls for sumone else.at the end,i wud suggest you not to go with emotional flow,cos it can hurt you badly if the case is the second one.so as for now,just wait and give sumtime for things to get clear in yr brain and his too.one thing that he is clear about is being frds after break up.i know its not easy to see sumone you have loved so much ,just as a frd.but then this is what life is all about and there is no harm in being frds.you never know in future you two can be best pals.cos you know in and out of each other so can support through thick and thin.you just have to start seeing him as a frd. make sure that in starting you are not meeting alone,i mean you should meet in a group.where you are around with other frds and don't rush into texting and calling each other for small reasons ,the way you used to.these precautions are needed just during initials months,after that it won't be a problem,cos yr head wud accustomed to relation of friendhsip with him..just hope that if you still love him then he too start feeling same for you.do tell me what happened.
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